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It’s Not Life, It’s Living!

“So we beat on, boats against the current, borne back ceaselessly into the past” – F. Scott Fitzgerald

Life isn’t meant to be easy, it’s meant to be lived; sometimes happier and other times rough. But with every ups-down we learn lessons and grow better. I believe a good life is when you assume nothing, and do more. I read a quote few days before which said, “Sometimes I just wish that I could fast forward time, just to see if it’s all worth it in the end.” – Well, I ask why? I mean, will you really rush for things you wanted to last forever?

Sometimes we just need to slow down our speed and remain calm. Live. Let Life Happen. Focus on small yet important things and then see how much you have accomplished. When things turn out naturally, they are better.  We all take our blues differently! I am sure of one thing which is that we become what we dwell on. We are always accountable for our intentions and their outcomes, and I guess that is all we have.

It is usually told to us that we are the creators of our life, so if we don’t like it we are the only who can change it. People are way better not making decisions out of fear. I think what is more impressive in any human being is strength of character which comes from surviving failure and loss. At some point of time or in regular intervals, we are going to lose ourselves but try coming back. The worst thing that can ever happen is actually you running out of time to do the thing that your heart ever longed you for.

Some of us have lost our ways, whilst others did found light in dark, however, we are all dreamers and way capable to do extraordinary things. You know all those things you’ve always wanted to do? You should go DO THEM! After All, it is living … YOUR STORY!

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To Most Relevant ‘Things’!

“Comfortable shoes and the freedom to leave are the two most important things in life.” – Shel Silverstein

Regret, mistakes, past stories, break-ups, and every messed angle of your life is actually a chief beauty about time. Embrace both your darkness and lights. Just don’t lose that “muchiness” of yours. I recently had a realization, that an elephant has not really bitten many but everyone definitely has once been bitten by a mosquito; so, lesson learnt is that its little things that gets us.

Nothing will change if you believe your suffering is more important than what change has to offer you.

Here is the real problem; we let anyone’s opinion whether good or bad overpower our beliefs and then we complain why do humans judge? Technically, the amount of work is same in making yourself miserable or strong.

Our ‘extreme’ anxious self does not come from thinking a lot of future, but from wanting to control it. If I could do it over, I wouldn’t change a thing in my life. Because everything that’s happened has brought me here, it is my story. Now, I have learned (the hard way) that some poems don’t rhyme; and some stories don’t have a perfect beginning or end or even the middle. Life is all about staying in the very “NOW” without knowing what is going to happen next. Plan but don’t force. They say what doesn’t kill you, makes you stronger. I don’t agree to it. I believe that things that try to kill you makes you angry and heartbroken. Your actual power comes from the good ‘things’: your family, friends, gratification and contentment of work that you are doing. Those things make you complete. Don’t get worked up over things you can’t change and people you can’t change. Holding on is a tough job, one should carry out only when you know it is all worth in the end. Be patient and keep calm to re-engineer your mind set; control only what you can. Everything Else… Let Go! Not all ‘things’ are relevant!

What is more important is to have a good laugh at your life story, realizing how far you have come, compare your teenage version in a photograph and look at yourself today.  That is the point of life – few people to share emotions with, a fair career, and ambitions to make it bigger and not quitting on self any day.

You Achieving Your Best Life is The Only Important Thing in Life! 

To Most Relevant ‘Things’ – YOU, and Your Happy World!

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We Have Tomorrows For A Reason!

“There is a saying in Tibetan, ‘Tragedy should be utilized as a source of strength.’ No matter what sort of difficulties, how painful experience is, if we lose our hope, that’s our real disaster” – Dalai Lama

Ever have of those days where you just can’t win?

Life to me is a journey of the moon; we must go through phases of emptiness to be full again. I know some days are just so hard but there is always hope in tomorrow. Today, it may be one of those days for you where you are hurt physically, emotionally, or mentally. Well if I put it in my favorite word formations; I will say it is one of those days when even my coffee needs coffee.

Maybe it is difficult but some walks we have to take alone. I know it does get cruel sometimes even so you must understand that to heal a wound you have to stop touching it and the logic applies to ‘one of those days’ or ‘not in mood days’ as well. If you feel you did something wrong, own up to what you didn’t do right and that is how you learn and earn respect within self too. Every so often we create a lot of troubles by either over-thinking or expectations. Well, it is not easy to detach from work commitments or people you love but at times it is necessary in order to restore your sanity, your mind and have peace.

With time, it does get harder for everyone to let it go, in spite of that when you do move on – you will realize it was the best decision you have ever made. Remember what Pooh the Beer said to Snoopy, You Live Everyday and Die Only Once!

You become a force when you accept what you are, admit your flaws, your actions and most importantly love yourself in the process of becoming.

Have Faith in Soul, Hope in Mind and Love in Heart! Have your own share of falling, rising, making mistakes, hurting and learning stories. It is all in mind; replace the word of being “brave always” with being “okay” or “happy”?  Not every day has to be a battlefield; someday it can be a rest day too!

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To Everything, I’ve Ever Lost!

“The Trouble is You Think You Have Time” – Buddha

Life is a series of surprising and inevitable changes. We all feel lost sometimes. There are many decisions we have to make in life, so many responsibilities to cope up with, so much of the pressure we feel on how society questions our existence; our strength can sometimes become so clouded. As human beings, we want to know answers to all the questions, but I believe our lives don’t really work that way.

We worry about tomorrow…. Like it’s promised!

The best day of your life is going to be the one when you decide that it is on your own. You alone are responsible for the quality of it. There is no one to motivate, lean on or even blame too; for life becomes a gift which you embrace and it is going to be the best day of your life! It is the same old school concept we learned from trees that lose their leaves every year and yet stand strong for better days coming their way.

We can’t always predict how things are going to work out in the future. We have to trust the process and count on our family & friends when time gets tough. These emotions sometimes also signal that it’s been long you haven’t had sufficient time to connect with yourself. Take a short trip or even a walk-in nature from hustles of everyday life and routine, it will provide you the clarity you have been searching for. We experience the feeling of loosing even because we have lived through so many hardships already be it the jobs we hate, the city we don’t like to fear of controlling life against what will it unfold. We get so mentally paralyzed, but what we actually need to be is persistent, and don’t allow negative thinking to pull us back. We simply have to do the best we can with what we’ve been given, and just try our hardest each day to live life according to our own principles and beliefs.

To Everything That I’ Have Lost… I Would Thank You For The Lessons And Experiences. From regrets and pain, I set you and I free to fade and be happy!

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Transformation Called ‘You’!

As time passes on, we discover ourselves like a bit new, a bit mature or it might not even be wrong to say equally messed up in a new way!

As we continue to age, we are no longer same, it is a little wiser, a little of an idiot and more of conqueror version of us is what we see. I wake up every morning and I surprise myself. I wake up to new me and I am in love with the process of my development, not because the old me is bad; but, because, the old me can improve.

Believe in yourself and all that you are. Know that there is something inside you that is greater than any obstacle

I feel so happy and proud of every individual out there who has taken absolute 100% responsibility of their life – be good, bad or ugly! Love yourself through the process of owning your story and it is going to be the bravest thing you will ever do. Trust me, straight or hassle free roads don’t make good drivers. Don’t be afraid to start over, for that’s not the start from scratch but from experience.

Enjoy the beauty of becoming! If nothing is certain, anything can be made possible. All the hardships, miseries, or things that broke you and every challenge you have faced – you have grown stronger, wiser and more compassionate. Do you recall the biggest challenge you faced this year? Prior to it, did you ever think you could survive that? Got your answer I suppose… Isn’t this something you felt proud about!

“My Interest in Life Comes From Setting Myself Huge, Apparently Unachievable Challenges, and Trying to Rise above Them” – Richard Branson

You are enough – a little more extra or not too much – but enough for yourself. Like Ellen DeGeneres quotes, “I enjoy growing older and wiser and learning from mistakes every single day”. You know the phase right now, maybe the toughest, feels we must quit; instead of thinking any of miseries why we do not accept it. Accept – then act. Whatever is going in present can be solved, just take time and rearrange. Take pride in battles fought and scars owned.

More than any recognition, acknowledge yourself! Be Proud of “Transformed You”, Wiser and Stronger! You are worthy of all your dreams!

 

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Let’s Talk Anxiety!

It is standard to feel anxious from time to time, especially if you live a stressful life. But for many people, anxiety is a constant companion, always lurking behind the next corner. An estimated 2-5% of the population is living with the constant worrying and panic attacks that define one of the most common mental illnesses: generalized anxiety disorder (GAD). Millions more live with social anxiety disorder, panic disorder, and other anxiety conditions. However, too few people discuss these openly. Mental illness still has a social stigma, causing many people keep their condition a secret.

Anxiety Is Real, and It Is Serious!

Don’t think acceptance of stress or anxiety is stupid. It is the threshold from where the disorder may kick in. All of those intense feelings of fear or urge of escaping or running away; losing control of the thoughts and actions, hot or cold flashes, feeling numb, or irrational thoughts; all of these are physical, psychological and emotional symptoms of anxiety. Take a moment now, stop and thank yourself for how far you have come.

Sometimes when anxiety hits, it’s hard to see or think clearly, and you just need something to bring you back down to reality, to know you are in control, and that everything is okay. You have been trying to make changes in your life, and all your efforts count. Find acceptance within yourself! Here I suggest some immediate course of action –

Learn who are your support systems, connect to family and friends, try to communicate and notice the ones that care shall help you through. Realize you WANT to GET BETTER, if you not determined for YOUR better tomorrow, no one can help you out. This has to be your biggest realization that you need to want to get better. Happiness is NOT an achievable GOAL, don’t think that happiness was the goal and everything would be great if only you could be “happy” but happiness isn’t a constant state, it’s not something you can reach one day and then live in forever. Appreciate that life is up and down but also mediocre and that’s okay. Figure out WHAT YOU WANT, sometimes it takes completely losing control over your life to realize what it is you want and which changes you need to make. Self-care is NOT SELFISH, if you constantly keep putting the needs of others above your own and don’t take any time to look after yourself, you will burn out.

There are years that ask questions and years that answer! Be Solid on your End!

 

Please Note, in next blog we shall be discussing social anxiety and mental breakdown issues and how can you deal with it.Keep Reading! Stay Happy and Blessed!

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You Can’t Escape Yourself!

Sometimes You Don’t Get To Call The Shots!

Sometimes you feel like you can’t because you don’t know who you want to be. You feel like the life is ruined, people have alienated you and then that feeling of being lost! Despite of knowing it all, you are not the toughest one! But, the day you decide to get your head up and work about it; that’s when you make the best decisions of your life.

Learn the Talent of Facing Criticism!

Learn this and discover that success isn’t about winning. It’s the same old school saying, it is about staying in the game and not quitting or letting someone make you quit. I want you all to realize that all the hardships and all the criticism that you face is making you a better person.

So, don’t quit now, not before you learn that no matter what you do or where you go, YOU CAN’T ESCAPE YOURSELF! 

I also have had my own share of making great effort on knowing who I want to be!

I keep on struggling about what to say, so stop thinking. I was convinced I didn’t know who I wanted to be. And then, I realized the answer was all around me. I want to be someone who is willing to forgive. I want to be someone that cares more about others than themselves. I want to be someone who can tell it like it is. I want to be someone who would give up everything for the right reason. I want to be someone who sees the best in everyone. I want to be someone who is a true friend. I want to be someone who always tries to be better person, and someone who learns from their mistakes. I guess I just want to be someone who encompasses all those things so I can finally be that person who doesn’t need to make life larger than reality to be happy.

Because I will know how to dance all on my own and will make it somewhere near to where I imagined.

 

 

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We Shall Overcome, Some Day!

Before I pen down my thoughts in the article, I want to write a big thank you to Pete Seeger, the song ‘We Shall Overcome’ is an inspiring force!

Do you ever think about going somewhere, where nobody knows you and start a new life?

Mental Conflicts, Emotional Drama and Unexplained Pain; everyone is fighting a battle within. And what all of us just wish, is some escape!

Hint – “Let’s NOT try to figure out EVERYTHING at ONCE.” 

Dear Readers, I can tell you over and over again to leave this situation or time which is tough as hell, but you won’t be able to, not until you are ready. One day you will get up in the morning and realize that this is not what you want to feel like anymore and trust me you will be done. And I think it’s important!

Things like people screwing you, fights with family, heartbreaks, loss of friends whom you thought would always be right beside you and that everyone has a past kind of feelings, which are full of tears, embarrassment and even laughter. You will experience the things that will shock you or even worst, break you. But then, there will be the time when you will sit back and realize that tough times come to people who can survive it and this is what you are.

Understand, there is always a season of wildness and a season of subtleness; news – the time right now is for neither. Don’t push yourself like fast-forward button in future that you haven’t recognized yet and even don’t be stuck in past. With all love, intensity and courage give “you” a brighter today.

Our struggles are never insignificant. Don’t hide, or refuse to cry out. We all are broken and we all are humans, and we are never alone. Sometimes all you need is probably 20 seconds of insane courage, just literally 20 seconds of embarrassing bravery. Your greatest need is to clean out the enormous mass of mental and emotional rubbish that is disturbing your mind. You need to learn how to select your thoughts just the same way you would probably select your clothes. At the end of the day, we can either focus on what is tearing us apart or what is holding us together!

You can decide how long you choose the negative things affect you. You can close-down words of self-doubt against self-love. You can let go of yesterday and start fresh at any given moments. It all starts and ends with you. Your mindset is your compass!

Move, travel, take a class, take risks, and go to 2am people who have stood by you and are still standing holding you! In case, your 2am people list is incomplete – Well, Come Over! I don’t really mind whether we talk for hours, get blind drunk or sit in silence gazing stars. I know world down here just gets a bit much, and we all need to lose ourselves for a little while!

But Don’t Worry – We Shall Over Come, Some Day!

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When Everything Goes Wrong!

When things go wrong, take moment to be thankful for the many more things that are still going right. Well, if you have still nothing to be grateful for,

“CHECK YOUR PULSE”!

So, the next time when you take life very seriously, and feel rotten, looser and every negative word associated to it – remember that we all are winging it here. No one knows more than anyone else the right way to live, so if things go wrong, remember that everyone is in the same boat. You are not alone here.

When things are really getting tough or totally wrong notice that you will still find it usually getting worse for some time more; but when things once start going right they often go on getting better and better. Don’t let over-thinking destroy your mood. Breathe and calm down. Never allow this “everything wrong” beat you down for too long; you can only move forward and make positive change if you keep a good mindset and allow the tough times to make you stronger.

Sometimes, we even create problems in our own heads that don’t really exist in reality. Stay mindful of your thoughts, and don’t let them control you. Ask this to self, “Is everything really going wrong, or do I just think that based on my perception?”

Remember that you are not a tree; you can move. When everything goes wrong, maybe the best choice is just to move on, set your sights on new horizons, and write a new chapter in your story.

I will recommend you a trick, sometimes try talking to a four-year old and an 84 year old and you will understand life again. Sometimes, we usually forget important lessons we have learnt throughout life that can help us through tough situations AGAIN. When we get a different perspective, it can make all the difference in how we react to a situation. Chances are that we will get our answer, as well as a whole new outlook on life.

Remind yourself all the time, that being afraid of things going wrong isn’t the way to make things go right. So, when things go wrong, SIMPLIFY!

Elvis Presley quoted, “When Things Go Wrong, Don’t Go with Them”. Sometimes, it seems that everything goes wrong, despite our best efforts to make things right. We can do everything in our power to make something work, but life might have different plans. Many of us feel as though we have no control over our lives, and while that might hold some truth to some extent, we do have the power to control how we react to situations.

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What Broke You?

It’s Time to Move On!

-Whatever you thought about while reading this, IT’S GOING TO BE OKAY!

My mother always taught me that human behavior flows from sources of desire, knowledge and emotions. It’s emotions that make us humans. Emotions are strong and intuitive feeling which is distinguished from reasoning or knowledge. More than confusing or breaking you, let it be an experience. Here is a thought to not only on overcoming emotions but accepting it; accepting our flaws and failures. We must accept the understanding that it’s tears that can make us strong and heartbreaks that makes us wiser. So, please thank your past for a better future. We have to admit this one simple fact which is that how many times we try and visit past, it has nothing new to offer us.

Those failures, stupidities, ugly points, imperfections, or heartbreaks; sometimes it does take a good fall to really know where you are standing. The hardest battle that we have ever fought is with ourselves. We have to let go of the thoughts that don’t make us strong. Embrace Failures! Missteps, roadblocks or losing someone you loved truly or moaning the loss of person who is not round; well, if are still breathing reading this, you will be fine. Some failures in life are inevitable. It is impossible to live without failing in something. We are strong enough to face it all, even if we doesn’t feel it correct right now.

A broken heart is not broken life or a broken future. Take all the time you need to heal emotionally. Moving on doesn’t take a day. It takes a lot of little steps to be able to break free of your broken self. I request all of you not to live behind excuses. If your past was tough, work hard for yourself, and make your future better. Do not repeat the same mistakes, whether they are yours or someone else’s.

Atticus quoted “We Are of All Those Who Have Built and Broken Us.”

Know this; We Can Start Over, Each Morning!

What has broken you? Never forget: How far you have come. Everything you have been through. All the times you have pushed on even when you felt you couldn’t. All the mornings you got out of bed no matter how hard it was. All the times you wanted to give up but you got through another day. Never ever forget that how much of strength and persistence you have developed and learned along the way.

Let your SELF be a powerful force that you are. Be your own fire because life that you have got is to learn new things, experience and most importantly to EXIST LOUDLY!   

 

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