Tag: Motivation

Let’s Talk Anxiety!

It is standard to feel anxious from time to time, especially if you live a stressful life. But for many people, anxiety is a constant companion, always lurking behind the next corner. An estimated 2-5% of the population is living with the constant worrying and panic attacks that define one of the most common mental illnesses: generalized anxiety disorder (GAD). Millions more live with social anxiety disorder, panic disorder, and other anxiety conditions. However, too few people discuss these openly. Mental illness still has a social stigma, causing many people keep their condition a secret.

Anxiety Is Real, and It Is Serious!

Don’t think acceptance of stress or anxiety is stupid. It is the threshold from where the disorder may kick in. All of those intense feelings of fear or urge of escaping or running away; losing control of the thoughts and actions, hot or cold flashes, feeling numb, or irrational thoughts; all of these are physical, psychological and emotional symptoms of anxiety. Take a moment now, stop and thank yourself for how far you have come.

Sometimes when anxiety hits, it’s hard to see or think clearly, and you just need something to bring you back down to reality, to know you are in control, and that everything is okay. You have been trying to make changes in your life, and all your efforts count. Find acceptance within yourself! Here I suggest some immediate course of action –

Learn who are your support systems, connect to family and friends, try to communicate and notice the ones that care shall help you through. Realize you WANT to GET BETTER, if you not determined for YOUR better tomorrow, no one can help you out. This has to be your biggest realization that you need to want to get better. Happiness is NOT an achievable GOAL, don’t think that happiness was the goal and everything would be great if only you could be “happy” but happiness isn’t a constant state, it’s not something you can reach one day and then live in forever. Appreciate that life is up and down but also mediocre and that’s okay. Figure out WHAT YOU WANT, sometimes it takes completely losing control over your life to realize what it is you want and which changes you need to make. Self-care is NOT SELFISH, if you constantly keep putting the needs of others above your own and don’t take any time to look after yourself, you will burn out.

There are years that ask questions and years that answer! Be Solid on your End!

 

Please Note, in next blog we shall be discussing social anxiety and mental breakdown issues and how can you deal with it.Keep Reading! Stay Happy and Blessed!

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What Matters? You!

Let me ask all of you a question, “YOU HAVE THIS ONE LIFE. How do you want to spend it? Apologizing? Regretting? Questioning? Hating Yourself? Dieting? Running behind people who DON’T see you?

I always get this question in my mind whenever somebody says “Life is Hard”, I am really tempted to know “Compared to what?” It took me around mid 20s of my age to realize that why do we worry about the world coming to an end today; it is already tomorrow in Japan and Australia.

In life, we all are free to choose, but we aren’t free from the consequences of our choice. Some choices will be good, some bad, and some of the worst choices might make good stories; but every choice shapes your future. So Cry, Forgive, Learn and Move On!

Never let a bad situation bring out the worst in you. Stop complaining about the things you are not willing to change. Remember, the first step in getting what you want is having the courage to get rid of what you don’t. You don’t become strongest when you show strength in front of others but when you win the battles no one knew anything about. I know all of us have a new adventure probably everyday that doesn’t only tears us apart, but shatters and drains us emotionally. But still, understand that you have to fight your own war and win; because all you did yesterday, all your scars, all your victories are already at stake. It’s just one more time in everyday life. This reminds me one of the quotes of Donald Trump, “If you’re going to be thinking, you may as well think big.” So, cultivate an optimistic mind, use your imagination, always consider alternatives, and dare to believe that you can make it possible.

There are mistakes we make in our lives that cannot be fixed. And despite our best efforts and our best intentions, there are people who sometimes will not forgive you. There are also things that we, in our own lives, cannot forgive in others. This is just part of the human experience.

Be wise enough to understand that not everything can be fixed, and then who are you going to be? Well, Be You! That’s all you can do, no matter how strong the current beats against you, or how heavy your burden, or how tragic your love story. YOU KEEP GOING!

For what is worth: I hope you are living a life, you’re proud of; and if not, I wish you all the strength it takes for you to start over!

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You Can’t Escape Yourself!

Sometimes You Don’t Get To Call The Shots!

Sometimes you feel like you can’t because you don’t know who you want to be. You feel like the life is ruined, people have alienated you and then that feeling of being lost! Despite of knowing it all, you are not the toughest one! But, the day you decide to get your head up and work about it; that’s when you make the best decisions of your life.

Learn the Talent of Facing Criticism!

Learn this and discover that success isn’t about winning. It’s the same old school saying, it is about staying in the game and not quitting or letting someone make you quit. I want you all to realize that all the hardships and all the criticism that you face is making you a better person.

So, don’t quit now, not before you learn that no matter what you do or where you go, YOU CAN’T ESCAPE YOURSELF! 

I also have had my own share of making great effort on knowing who I want to be!

I keep on struggling about what to say, so stop thinking. I was convinced I didn’t know who I wanted to be. And then, I realized the answer was all around me. I want to be someone who is willing to forgive. I want to be someone that cares more about others than themselves. I want to be someone who can tell it like it is. I want to be someone who would give up everything for the right reason. I want to be someone who sees the best in everyone. I want to be someone who is a true friend. I want to be someone who always tries to be better person, and someone who learns from their mistakes. I guess I just want to be someone who encompasses all those things so I can finally be that person who doesn’t need to make life larger than reality to be happy.

Because I will know how to dance all on my own and will make it somewhere near to where I imagined.

 

 

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Don’t Have A Plan, Well, It’s Alright!

It’s not about being perfect every single day. I can summarize my life till date in one sentence: It didn’t go as planned and I am still a happy human! What screws us up the most in life is the picture in our mind of how “It’s” supposed to be.

No one in life has the smooth sailing, I mean, the heartbreaks, fights, failure or giving in to any social pressure. I have seen tears of love lost in many eyes, be it of person fighting a toxic relationship break-up or divorce after vows of togetherness. Worst tears are the ones, which says they have no hopes to look for in life now, the ones shed in front of mirror because that’s only person you have, for the dreams lost or venture which was your brain child failed. Pain and Failure are part of life. Probably, life isn’t about avoiding the bruises; maybe it is about collecting all the battle scars that proves you showed up for it!

Albert Einstein once quoted, “Everybody is genius. But if you judge a fish by its ability to climb a tree, it will live its whole life believing that it is stupid.” If you don’t have a plan, you can end up doing some interesting things. Besides, life is very short to wonder what could have been. Nobody ever wrote down a plan to be broke, lazy or stupid; those things happen when you lose the passion in yourself.

BE STUBBORN ABOUT YOUR GOALS, BUT FLEXIBLE ABOUT YOUR METHODS. Just remember if there is anything you should be willing to bet on, it should be yourself!

Everything in your life is a reflection of a choice you have made, and I am pretty sure it didn’t come with instructions manual either! It is not always about fixing the broken; maybe it’s about starting over and creating something better. In simple words, not always a plan ‘A’ that works for you but a plan with many alphabets in row. It is passion and vision that should drive your commitment. The action plan or the road-map can be altered or rewritten. Your purpose fuels your passion. All you have and all you will ever need is your own fire!

Learn to Embrace the Randomness!

Not everything will go as you planned and it is alright! Maybe that is time when you must drop the expectations and go with the flow. People must realize over-thinking is no solution, you can’t control everything! Have faith and trust yourself, like when in water, you don’t grab hold the water because if you do, you will sink and drown. Instead you relax, and float!

Trust your Madness! It is alright if you don’t have a plan, at least have passion and you are still breathing. You have done it today; you shall do it tomorrow too! There are more important things in life than winning or losing one game!

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We Shall Overcome, Some Day!

Before I pen down my thoughts in the article, I want to write a big thank you to Pete Seeger, the song ‘We Shall Overcome’ is an inspiring force!

Do you ever think about going somewhere, where nobody knows you and start a new life?

Mental Conflicts, Emotional Drama and Unexplained Pain; everyone is fighting a battle within. And what all of us just wish, is some escape!

Hint – “Let’s NOT try to figure out EVERYTHING at ONCE.” 

Dear Readers, I can tell you over and over again to leave this situation or time which is tough as hell, but you won’t be able to, not until you are ready. One day you will get up in the morning and realize that this is not what you want to feel like anymore and trust me you will be done. And I think it’s important!

Things like people screwing you, fights with family, heartbreaks, loss of friends whom you thought would always be right beside you and that everyone has a past kind of feelings, which are full of tears, embarrassment and even laughter. You will experience the things that will shock you or even worst, break you. But then, there will be the time when you will sit back and realize that tough times come to people who can survive it and this is what you are.

Understand, there is always a season of wildness and a season of subtleness; news – the time right now is for neither. Don’t push yourself like fast-forward button in future that you haven’t recognized yet and even don’t be stuck in past. With all love, intensity and courage give “you” a brighter today.

Our struggles are never insignificant. Don’t hide, or refuse to cry out. We all are broken and we all are humans, and we are never alone. Sometimes all you need is probably 20 seconds of insane courage, just literally 20 seconds of embarrassing bravery. Your greatest need is to clean out the enormous mass of mental and emotional rubbish that is disturbing your mind. You need to learn how to select your thoughts just the same way you would probably select your clothes. At the end of the day, we can either focus on what is tearing us apart or what is holding us together!

You can decide how long you choose the negative things affect you. You can close-down words of self-doubt against self-love. You can let go of yesterday and start fresh at any given moments. It all starts and ends with you. Your mindset is your compass!

Move, travel, take a class, take risks, and go to 2am people who have stood by you and are still standing holding you! In case, your 2am people list is incomplete – Well, Come Over! I don’t really mind whether we talk for hours, get blind drunk or sit in silence gazing stars. I know world down here just gets a bit much, and we all need to lose ourselves for a little while!

But Don’t Worry – We Shall Over Come, Some Day!

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When Everything Goes Wrong!

When things go wrong, take moment to be thankful for the many more things that are still going right. Well, if you have still nothing to be grateful for,

“CHECK YOUR PULSE”!

So, the next time when you take life very seriously, and feel rotten, looser and every negative word associated to it – remember that we all are winging it here. No one knows more than anyone else the right way to live, so if things go wrong, remember that everyone is in the same boat. You are not alone here.

When things are really getting tough or totally wrong notice that you will still find it usually getting worse for some time more; but when things once start going right they often go on getting better and better. Don’t let over-thinking destroy your mood. Breathe and calm down. Never allow this “everything wrong” beat you down for too long; you can only move forward and make positive change if you keep a good mindset and allow the tough times to make you stronger.

Sometimes, we even create problems in our own heads that don’t really exist in reality. Stay mindful of your thoughts, and don’t let them control you. Ask this to self, “Is everything really going wrong, or do I just think that based on my perception?”

Remember that you are not a tree; you can move. When everything goes wrong, maybe the best choice is just to move on, set your sights on new horizons, and write a new chapter in your story.

I will recommend you a trick, sometimes try talking to a four-year old and an 84 year old and you will understand life again. Sometimes, we usually forget important lessons we have learnt throughout life that can help us through tough situations AGAIN. When we get a different perspective, it can make all the difference in how we react to a situation. Chances are that we will get our answer, as well as a whole new outlook on life.

Remind yourself all the time, that being afraid of things going wrong isn’t the way to make things go right. So, when things go wrong, SIMPLIFY!

Elvis Presley quoted, “When Things Go Wrong, Don’t Go with Them”. Sometimes, it seems that everything goes wrong, despite our best efforts to make things right. We can do everything in our power to make something work, but life might have different plans. Many of us feel as though we have no control over our lives, and while that might hold some truth to some extent, we do have the power to control how we react to situations.

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What Broke You?

It’s Time to Move On!

-Whatever you thought about while reading this, IT’S GOING TO BE OKAY!

My mother always taught me that human behavior flows from sources of desire, knowledge and emotions. It’s emotions that make us humans. Emotions are strong and intuitive feeling which is distinguished from reasoning or knowledge. More than confusing or breaking you, let it be an experience. Here is a thought to not only on overcoming emotions but accepting it; accepting our flaws and failures. We must accept the understanding that it’s tears that can make us strong and heartbreaks that makes us wiser. So, please thank your past for a better future. We have to admit this one simple fact which is that how many times we try and visit past, it has nothing new to offer us.

Those failures, stupidities, ugly points, imperfections, or heartbreaks; sometimes it does take a good fall to really know where you are standing. The hardest battle that we have ever fought is with ourselves. We have to let go of the thoughts that don’t make us strong. Embrace Failures! Missteps, roadblocks or losing someone you loved truly or moaning the loss of person who is not round; well, if are still breathing reading this, you will be fine. Some failures in life are inevitable. It is impossible to live without failing in something. We are strong enough to face it all, even if we doesn’t feel it correct right now.

A broken heart is not broken life or a broken future. Take all the time you need to heal emotionally. Moving on doesn’t take a day. It takes a lot of little steps to be able to break free of your broken self. I request all of you not to live behind excuses. If your past was tough, work hard for yourself, and make your future better. Do not repeat the same mistakes, whether they are yours or someone else’s.

Atticus quoted “We Are of All Those Who Have Built and Broken Us.”

Know this; We Can Start Over, Each Morning!

What has broken you? Never forget: How far you have come. Everything you have been through. All the times you have pushed on even when you felt you couldn’t. All the mornings you got out of bed no matter how hard it was. All the times you wanted to give up but you got through another day. Never ever forget that how much of strength and persistence you have developed and learned along the way.

Let your SELF be a powerful force that you are. Be your own fire because life that you have got is to learn new things, experience and most importantly to EXIST LOUDLY!   

 

To Mistakes, Regrets and Everything Above!

“There is always that One Stupid Mistake, That Changes Everything!”

Today morning while I was deciding to pen something to keep my readers and myself spirited on hopes and idealism. This time I thought to connect on something which is probably an everyday story to all of us. Let us understand that we have to stop being afraid of what could go wrong and start being positive about what could go right!

Every day we all struggle, and it does happen that struggles are exactly what we need in our life. If you were to go through your life without any obstacles, you would be disabled and crippled. Probably, we would not be as strong as what we could have been. Give every opportunity a chance! Believe me; the reward is not so great without any struggle story.

During our struggle, we do make mistakes! Alexander Pope quoted “TO ERR IS HUMAN”! We all make mistakes, have struggles, and even regret things in our past. But, we are not only our mistakes, or struggles; we are here in NOW holding the power to shape our day and future. Treat your mistakes as your teacher instead of attacker. Treat all your mistakes as it is more than loss, a lesson; a necessary detour and not the dead end.

Though there is no doubt about the fact that most of our mistakes, the big ones at least, are the result of allowing emotion to overrule logic. We knew the right choice but didn’t obey I guess. It is courage and acceptance that making mistakes is a factual thing but response to errors that count.

Regrets and Mistakes Are Memories! Accept everything about yourself – I mean EVERYTHING, We are who we become in the beginning or even at the end. In life all of us have done things – some we wish we had never done and some we wish we could replay a million times in our heads. But you all of these things actually makes us who we are, and shape us with detail. If we reverse any of it, I doubt we would the same person that we are. So I advise, just live, make mistakes, have wonderful memories but never ever give a second thought what are you and who you have been. I wish all of us from today start living before we are old enough to be wild and stupid. Let us understand we have to learn from it, we are humans and if we try, well, mistakes shall happen.

Don’t allow yourself to be defined by things you did or didn’t do in your past; Maybe you Regret, maybe you don’t – it merely something that happen, Get Over It!  

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What is To Exist? Well, It’s Freedom!

“And does not true freedom mean choosing ways in this world that to the good of all and are guided by love?” – Pope Francis

Reading one of the morning affirmations today, the above stated quote of Pope Francis got my attention and made me wonder that what actually freedom is; whether it is Love, Existence, Self-Reliance, or a State of Mind.

Freedom is acceptance, the ability to embrace mistakes, choices that turn out good, bad or ugly and not denying fears. Instead of trying very harsh on making your life perfect, give yourself the freedom to make it an adventure! Freedom as a word never meant breaking chains; rather it is the power to choose your own chains. There is no greater freedom than the freedom to be you. Our minds are powerful thing; we have to fill it with positive thoughts.

Here is my secret of Happiness and Being a Free Soul: I DON’T MIND WHAT HAPPENS!

Freedom is nothing else than a chance to be better. I believe no one outside ourselves can rule us inwardly and when we realize this, I think we become free. While thinking on penning down my article on freedom – the very first thought I had, looked like this – “freedom is that instant between when someone tells you to do something and when you decide how to respond”.

I think giving right direction on attainment of freedom is like giving the ones you love wings to fly, roots to come back and reasons to stay ahead that liberation is the best gift we can give our generations in return. Love is only freedom from attachment. When you love everything, you are attached to nothing. Freedom consists not in refusing to recognize anything above us, but in respecting something which is above us; for by respecting it, we raise ourselves to it, and, by our very acknowledgment, prove that we bear within ourselves what is higher, and are worthy to be on a level with it.

I always quote Benjamin Franklin when discussing liberation and freedom it was “Without freedom of thought, there can be no such thing as wisdom – and no such thing as public liberty without freedom of speech”. I think freedom is to find you by thinking of yourself. Doing what you love is freedom.

It is our greatest responsibility to love ourselves and know that we are enough. That’s Freedom!

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Larger Than Life!

Everyone has a story to tell, everyone is a writer. Some are written in the books and some are confined to hearts. – Savi Sharma, Everyone Has A Story

With an early winter evening these days, with a cup of coffee and some good fiction reading I sit in my porch. During one of these evenings of solitude routine, I was reading the book of Savi Sharma titled ‘Everyone Has A Story’, I appreciate her art of moulding sentences and making us think about our story. I really wondered that day how much do we actually TRUST OUR STORY?! Is living like we want only a misconception? Well, I didn’t wanted “yes” for the answer.

Size a bit larger is important to exit normalisation. Though there is no doubt about the fact that average is perfection but why just be a performer when you are born to win and to have a well-deserved happily ever after! In the end of a life time don’t regret the choices you didn’t made and the dreams you didn’t fought for.

I was never sure what my purpose is and probably still I am not sure! It is a task of courageous to be one’s own superhero. It is funny how little things make me feel larger than life – the correct word, the most heartfelt song melody, the clearest messages, LOVE, and a novel to read by my window with coffee. If you are uncompromising, sarcastic, volatile, solitary lover, adventurous, monomaniacal, etc. Congratulations! You are indeed living a larger than life!

I do not wish to pursue any of my readers to be extravagant or overrate the materialistic but why we don’t rejoice acceptance to learn, leave or have mercy on ourselves with fewer disappointments. It is never too late to be who you might have been. We are not immortals but our story can be. Let the essence, our spirit, and all those of small things be immortalized by story we leave behind.

Don’t ask less for yourself and settle. You know why we admire superheroes; well I say we like them because of the drama, the stirring, larger-than-life aspect as the Kurt Busiek Quotes. It is never of how much we have, but how much we enjoy makes us happy. Not every-time the outcome is always what we desired but happiness is getting the lead role of life.

We are the heroes of our story; let’s decide to give ourselves a well-earned happy ending. Let the struggle of life be remembered as fights worthy won. Like larger than life, enjoy the cinematic and visual expression of what will make you laugh when recalling your life sitting in the lazy winter evening.

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