Tag: hope

To Most Relevant ‘Things’!

“Comfortable shoes and the freedom to leave are the two most important things in life.” – Shel Silverstein

Regret, mistakes, past stories, break-ups, and every messed angle of your life is actually a chief beauty about time. Embrace both your darkness and lights. Just don’t lose that “muchiness” of yours. I recently had a realization, that an elephant has not really bitten many but everyone definitely has once been bitten by a mosquito; so, lesson learnt is that its little things that gets us.

Nothing will change if you believe your suffering is more important than what change has to offer you.

Here is the real problem; we let anyone’s opinion whether good or bad overpower our beliefs and then we complain why do humans judge? Technically, the amount of work is same in making yourself miserable or strong.

Our ‘extreme’ anxious self does not come from thinking a lot of future, but from wanting to control it. If I could do it over, I wouldn’t change a thing in my life. Because everything that’s happened has brought me here, it is my story. Now, I have learned (the hard way) that some poems don’t rhyme; and some stories don’t have a perfect beginning or end or even the middle. Life is all about staying in the very “NOW” without knowing what is going to happen next. Plan but don’t force. They say what doesn’t kill you, makes you stronger. I don’t agree to it. I believe that things that try to kill you makes you angry and heartbroken. Your actual power comes from the good ‘things’: your family, friends, gratification and contentment of work that you are doing. Those things make you complete. Don’t get worked up over things you can’t change and people you can’t change. Holding on is a tough job, one should carry out only when you know it is all worth in the end. Be patient and keep calm to re-engineer your mind set; control only what you can. Everything Else… Let Go! Not all ‘things’ are relevant!

What is more important is to have a good laugh at your life story, realizing how far you have come, compare your teenage version in a photograph and look at yourself today.  That is the point of life – few people to share emotions with, a fair career, and ambitions to make it bigger and not quitting on self any day.

You Achieving Your Best Life is The Only Important Thing in Life! 

To Most Relevant ‘Things’ – YOU, and Your Happy World!

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Even Miracles Take A Little Time!

“If you focus on what you left behind, you will never see what lies ahead.” — Gusteau

Being in distress or worrying never helped anything. If you have done what you can do best, to be fearful won’t make it any better. It is just a form of negative goal setting.

We as humans, have a bad problem which happens to doubt ourselves and question everything; even our own dreams. You must believe in self, in dreams and it’s worthiness in happening – when believe, believe in it all way unquestionable and implacable. This is where the magic happens.

“Our fate lives within us; you only have to be brave enough to see it.” 

Let’s all of us understand that knowing how to laugh at ourselves instead of crying over our weakness will make us more accommodating and happier. No one is perfect after all. Why people let anyone define their limits because of where they are coming from? Don’t let anyone decide for you, you will be what you want to be. Just don’t give up on believing, for what do not make sense today, will make sense sometime later and everything will settle fair in span of time. Your beliefs will lead you to where you want to be. 

Define your life the way you experienced it. Keep looking and writing your story with touch of little magic of hope and faith – that’s how at the end of the day – you will meet your true self and you will say it was worthwhile. I know that the challenged life is not easy, you break, fall and literally want to give up; but you win when your desire to succeed is greater than your fear of failure.

I know there are no magical shortcuts for solving problems in life, but if you trust me, what it all takes is hope and trust. Don’t be so burdened as if you are to save the world, otherwise you would have been wearing a cape and tight. So, chin up and just do the best you can.   

For today is the good day to try it seems, I send you some stardust and pixie magic that you count on the best things in life; a happy and loving family,  a few but great friends who stay through your worse, strength to be yourself, some courage to cry and ability to face a hard day. Remember, when miracles take a little time; your fairy godmother is on her way, all the struggles and hard times are to vanish!

Hope is Never Lost, Believe in Miracles.

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We Have Tomorrows For A Reason!

“There is a saying in Tibetan, ‘Tragedy should be utilized as a source of strength.’ No matter what sort of difficulties, how painful experience is, if we lose our hope, that’s our real disaster” – Dalai Lama

Ever have of those days where you just can’t win?

Life to me is a journey of the moon; we must go through phases of emptiness to be full again. I know some days are just so hard but there is always hope in tomorrow. Today, it may be one of those days for you where you are hurt physically, emotionally, or mentally. Well if I put it in my favorite word formations; I will say it is one of those days when even my coffee needs coffee.

Maybe it is difficult but some walks we have to take alone. I know it does get cruel sometimes even so you must understand that to heal a wound you have to stop touching it and the logic applies to ‘one of those days’ or ‘not in mood days’ as well. If you feel you did something wrong, own up to what you didn’t do right and that is how you learn and earn respect within self too. Every so often we create a lot of troubles by either over-thinking or expectations. Well, it is not easy to detach from work commitments or people you love but at times it is necessary in order to restore your sanity, your mind and have peace.

With time, it does get harder for everyone to let it go, in spite of that when you do move on – you will realize it was the best decision you have ever made. Remember what Pooh the Beer said to Snoopy, You Live Everyday and Die Only Once!

You become a force when you accept what you are, admit your flaws, your actions and most importantly love yourself in the process of becoming.

Have Faith in Soul, Hope in Mind and Love in Heart! Have your own share of falling, rising, making mistakes, hurting and learning stories. It is all in mind; replace the word of being “brave always” with being “okay” or “happy”?  Not every day has to be a battlefield; someday it can be a rest day too!

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What is To Exist? Well, It’s Freedom!

“And does not true freedom mean choosing ways in this world that to the good of all and are guided by love?” – Pope Francis

Reading one of the morning affirmations today, the above stated quote of Pope Francis got my attention and made me wonder that what actually freedom is; whether it is Love, Existence, Self-Reliance, or a State of Mind.

Freedom is acceptance, the ability to embrace mistakes, choices that turn out good, bad or ugly and not denying fears. Instead of trying very harsh on making your life perfect, give yourself the freedom to make it an adventure! Freedom as a word never meant breaking chains; rather it is the power to choose your own chains. There is no greater freedom than the freedom to be you. Our minds are powerful thing; we have to fill it with positive thoughts.

Here is my secret of Happiness and Being a Free Soul: I DON’T MIND WHAT HAPPENS!

Freedom is nothing else than a chance to be better. I believe no one outside ourselves can rule us inwardly and when we realize this, I think we become free. While thinking on penning down my article on freedom – the very first thought I had, looked like this – “freedom is that instant between when someone tells you to do something and when you decide how to respond”.

I think giving right direction on attainment of freedom is like giving the ones you love wings to fly, roots to come back and reasons to stay ahead that liberation is the best gift we can give our generations in return. Love is only freedom from attachment. When you love everything, you are attached to nothing. Freedom consists not in refusing to recognize anything above us, but in respecting something which is above us; for by respecting it, we raise ourselves to it, and, by our very acknowledgment, prove that we bear within ourselves what is higher, and are worthy to be on a level with it.

I always quote Benjamin Franklin when discussing liberation and freedom it was “Without freedom of thought, there can be no such thing as wisdom – and no such thing as public liberty without freedom of speech”. I think freedom is to find you by thinking of yourself. Doing what you love is freedom.

It is our greatest responsibility to love ourselves and know that we are enough. That’s Freedom!

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Larger Than Life!

Everyone has a story to tell, everyone is a writer. Some are written in the books and some are confined to hearts. – Savi Sharma, Everyone Has A Story

With an early winter evening these days, with a cup of coffee and some good fiction reading I sit in my porch. During one of these evenings of solitude routine, I was reading the book of Savi Sharma titled ‘Everyone Has A Story’, I appreciate her art of moulding sentences and making us think about our story. I really wondered that day how much do we actually TRUST OUR STORY?! Is living like we want only a misconception? Well, I didn’t wanted “yes” for the answer.

Size a bit larger is important to exit normalisation. Though there is no doubt about the fact that average is perfection but why just be a performer when you are born to win and to have a well-deserved happily ever after! In the end of a life time don’t regret the choices you didn’t made and the dreams you didn’t fought for.

I was never sure what my purpose is and probably still I am not sure! It is a task of courageous to be one’s own superhero. It is funny how little things make me feel larger than life – the correct word, the most heartfelt song melody, the clearest messages, LOVE, and a novel to read by my window with coffee. If you are uncompromising, sarcastic, volatile, solitary lover, adventurous, monomaniacal, etc. Congratulations! You are indeed living a larger than life!

I do not wish to pursue any of my readers to be extravagant or overrate the materialistic but why we don’t rejoice acceptance to learn, leave or have mercy on ourselves with fewer disappointments. It is never too late to be who you might have been. We are not immortals but our story can be. Let the essence, our spirit, and all those of small things be immortalized by story we leave behind.

Don’t ask less for yourself and settle. You know why we admire superheroes; well I say we like them because of the drama, the stirring, larger-than-life aspect as the Kurt Busiek Quotes. It is never of how much we have, but how much we enjoy makes us happy. Not every-time the outcome is always what we desired but happiness is getting the lead role of life.

We are the heroes of our story; let’s decide to give ourselves a well-earned happy ending. Let the struggle of life be remembered as fights worthy won. Like larger than life, enjoy the cinematic and visual expression of what will make you laugh when recalling your life sitting in the lazy winter evening.

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It’s Okay, I Understand!

To everyone who struggles either fighting yourself or the enemies you can’t see like the voices that swift unseen or whisper in ears; the darkness who feel within your heart; that anxiety or panic attacks. Today, I want to share about the importance of communication when it comes to mental illness sensed in oneself.

According to the statistics released by WHO Report in Times of India, not only do 56 million Indians or 4.5% of India’s population suffer from depression at this moment but another 38 million Indians suffer from anxiety disorders. Almost 7.5% of Indians suffer from major or minor mental disorders that require expert interventions. So, this article is to address everyone who is currently undergoing the process of diagnoses, medication, or are unable to understand what’s “wrong” with them and all they know right now is that they feel messed – Don’t be tempted to make sure you don’t make it through. Its okay, I understand!

What to do we need to do when in midst of chaos or feeling of social stigma? BE HONEST, ASK FOR HELP and most of all; don’t forget to ASK FOR LOVE. I truly realise that not every feeling can be talked about or even put to words. Tell yourself this – “It is rare and unusual but I can explain it”.

Also, I feel at times not everyone around us can explain it because they are thinking not being burdensome and that’s where social stigma enters in. People suffering from any anxiety, depression, pressure or even a hint of acute mood-swings don’t need an aggressive list of “to-do(s)” and “change-your-routine”.

People suffering NEED to understand and accept the fact that your loved ones will never ever regret saying “there for you” and you can’t do it on your own. Eventually you have to reach out and ask for help, if not psychiatrist but at least one of your own people. And you know what will happen then – they will not run away, laugh, hide or whisper but say “It’s Okay, I Understand!” Let your family or friends know that you are going through emotional chaos and have no idea why is that happening. Let them see your sickness and volunteer to help.

If you don’t understand what is wrong with you? Well, learn to realise what is right – That you have friends and loved ones who will guide you and help to discover what is wrong and never ever forget their kindness.

To everyone reading this article or even communicating the summary of this, please learn to open your heart and communicate feelings. When we can’t trust ourselves, we can trust people who love us! It’s not that you need to be fixed, but a pinch of optimism will make it right. Grow more comfortable sharing not only experiences but genuine feelings – Let you friends see you cry ugly; it is not a big deal!

 

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Why? What So Wrong with Being Average?

Stephen Hawking quoted “One of the Basic Rules of the Universe is that nothing is perfect. Perfection simply doesn’t exist…Without imperfection, neither you nor I would exist”.

This thought got me in the dilemma, rather made me realise that why we don’t have a growing appreciation for basic experiences of life. All of us I seem have confused ourselves between progress and perfection. It is important for people to transfer the attention and energy into striving for progress and grow instead of perfection. Because I really haven’t met a single human who even has got a “perfect” definition of “perfection”; I strongly stand in favor that there is less probability of perfection even existing.

I stand in the defense of being average about everything, why do even we get into the question of making everything so extra ordinary? Why is not being normal or content about things or individuality not appreciated?

The beauty of an average human being is that of doing everything in exact proportion nothing outdone or under-performed, just as it has to be. So, to the believers of perfection, I would want to put this question – is doing everything AS REQUIRED sign of imperfection?

Though there is no doubt about the fact that reaching new height, achieving goals, success and recognition is important. But I strongly believe one should not set unrealistic goals in life and question their own existence. The strategy to break-free or to say having satisfaction is first to sit back and take a note of what are you feeling and why. Note down all of the things that go in your mind that fears, failures, sense of imperfections, etc. without judging yourself. And honestly, let go any of vision you find blurry or not achievable. This may sound not that motivating but trust me it’s better to give up then planning an escape later. In rush of perfection and plans, we kill ourselves in pressure and forget the benefits of our individuality.

The attractiveness of average is having lower expectations, more security about self, and more happiness in what we are. Instead of reaching perfection, why not reach potential – maybe will outperform and break the chains.

My current philosophy says in favor of being average, I say, I will learn to measure myself through new versions like the pleasure of simple friendships, creating something, crafting the papers, riding a horse, helping a person in need, reading a good book, laughing with someone I care about. Sounds normal, isn’t it? That’s because they are average and probably there is reason for them to be average. The reason is they are what actually matters.

Accomplish what you truly desire to Accomplish!

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When Nothing Goes Right You!

Life is series of unplanned and spontaneous turns or to say changes. Don’t resist them, for it will only bring sorrow and grief to frustrate you even more. So, when nothing goes right for anyone of us – what do we do, where we go and how to even make it work?

We all on a phase of life have unhappy circumstances and those fair shares of good, bad and ugly days. Life is not a journey depicting problem rushing in for solutions but reality lived with experiences. Like everyone does, probably I will recommend you to take a mini escape to travel or be off routine and do anything what you call your favorite. But are escapes a lasting or permanent solution to make things right. Though, there is no doubt about the fact every individual can and must have mini escapes but life is pathway better to have a road-map.

When nothing goes right for you do this – re-approach your plan, strategise and bring in more passion. One factor in your favor and you will be back on track. Tell yourself that so far your track record of passing through bad time is 100% and you have survived already.

“Most of the important things in the world have been accomplished by people who have kept on trying when there seemed to be no hope at all.”—Dale Carnegie

Document little chores, mark the tasks, and note precisely every small achievement on the long path of plan made. When nothing goes right, grab a coffee and corner table. Re-think where the plan went wrong, seek help and take everything you learned from the experience for using it to strategise a new plan for success. Whether it’s an emotional fight or fight for achievement that you feel you are failing, it is that moment you take responsibility for everything in your life. Be happy for little progress everyday being it a habit, a task completed or even a hello from your favorite person who you couldn’t give time too.

Strategise your life and determine what your definition of success is! It is then your accomplishments will be bigger than having wrong time mood swings.

There is always a way through very challenge we are facing right now; all we need a strong mindset focused on positivity and commitment we made to ourselves. With faith forward, we eventually reach to happy place.

When nothing goes right remember it is okay, it is just a place of struggle and struggle is another word of growth. The ones who don’t struggle are the ones who don’t grow. So, if you are struggling right now, see it is a terrific sign – celebrate your struggle! 

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Simply Summer!

It was one of the routine days at College; occupied with lectures, research and scheduled routine chores of work life. I get a message from a dear friend stating, “I NEED A BREAK, IT’S SUMMER ALREADY!” This statement of her gave me an alarm check stating that it’s time to leave! It’s Simply Summer!

Because as Mark Twain states – 20 years from now you will be more disappointed by the things you didn’t do than by the ones you did do and I really do not only wish to make just money but memories too.

Vacation or off routine holidays are much in need for every single 21st Century individual, whether you are into corporate or an entrepreneur or you pretty much hype about enjoying work as an artist. I strongly believe that vacations and escape trips are so much more than off routine holidays; they are experiences which show what is possible and challenge us to examine that paths we will take in future as well.

From Bryan Adams’s Summer of ‘69 to Calvin Harris’s Summer Meeting or TVF’s New Web Series Yeh Meri Family: Summer of ‘98, we connect to all of them. Summer brings nostalgic waves of childhood at Family Home, first crush of teenage, or maybe that favourite grandmother song. Why just living in memories and cursing the life that we work hard for because we forget to summer breaks ourselves.

Let summer be the time when we shed our tensions and opt for mountains or beach whatever we more crave for and have a few of those days where we can be drunk with belief that all is right with the world.

LOOK AT THE SUNNY SIDE OF EVERYTHING! RUN TO MOUNTAINS AND CONNECT TO JOURNEY OF YOUR OWN OR DIVE IN OCEAN WATERS AND EXPERIENCE SOLITUDE.

You need not to be money man or super rich for any of this I believe. Not every escape is costly. I have my friends who are bikers and go mountains on trips (complains on not taking me along remains though) and are corporate employees with limited leaves to manage in. There are lot of tour planners, travel bloggers, explorers, etc. to aid us with very information we need. With an era of having world a click away, don’t miss upon exploring it yourself.

What it takes to smell summer breeze is a plan in advance and desire or a familiar conviction that life was beginning over again with the summer. Let summer be simple, lesser of chaos and more of holidays.

THERE IS ALWAYS THAT ONE SUMMER THAT CHANGES YOU!

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Make A Life!

To that idea of Work-Life Balance, with so many sayings and articles on managing Work-Life Balance – let me tell you something straight that even when we win the rat race, well, we are still rats.

It is by attempting to reach the top at a single leap that so much misery is caused in the world.

 In this era of busy world, to prioritize between work and personal life is huge challenge. Even more challenging is being troubled by great ambitions. Though, one can’t achieve or even start something without ambition. But what creates chaos in mind and work life balance is dis-proportioned routine we follow. The fine line of difference lies in understanding your priorities and desires. Sometimes, we as Human confuse ourselves in our own unrealistic world which has no existence when applied. The fantasy of being in Howgarts and studying magic or rather being a multiple billion archaeologist like Tomb Raider; are we really being true to ourselves in understanding the surroundings we dwell in. What are we Humans running for when it comes to living?

Sense of achievement or desires is never ending quest. But, humans as rational being has we are, as always have found ways to succeed and be happy in life. Work made happy and gladly maintain the balance conceptualized about. Well, we have travel bloggers and communities like ‘stayonskill’ or ‘destinedtravellers’ and many more to name who are not billionaires by now but have more than million followers and are enrich by experience of various places around the globe. Entrepreneurs like Mr Vasu Mahajan, who is the founder of ‘Asia English Teacher’ which offers an Australian accredited and internationally recognized Certificate IV in TESOL. Fondly calls himself a BRAT (BACKPACKER, RIDER, and TEACHER) happily works around the Asia for 5 days and explores surroundings remaining days. Work-Life Balance never troubles them.

So, here is try to bring you people an acceptable definition of Work-Life Balance or making a life; it does not mean an equal balance. Life is and has to be more liquid (able to flow easily). The acceptance of the fact that your perfect individual work-life balance will vary from time to time, often on daily basis is important to do. Achievement and Enjoyment – simple it is. Walk easy and appreciate very small achievement.

Life will deliver the value and balance we desire. Divide your achievement and enjoyment in simple four parts: Work, Self, Family and Friends. All you need to do is focus on them as key components. So, make it happen for yourself and all important people of your life.

For rest of your life everyday achieve and enjoy!

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