Tag: Change

To Most Relevant ‘Things’!

“Comfortable shoes and the freedom to leave are the two most important things in life.” – Shel Silverstein

Regret, mistakes, past stories, break-ups, and every messed angle of your life is actually a chief beauty about time. Embrace both your darkness and lights. Just don’t lose that “muchiness” of yours. I recently had a realization, that an elephant has not really bitten many but everyone definitely has once been bitten by a mosquito; so, lesson learnt is that its little things that gets us.

Nothing will change if you believe your suffering is more important than what change has to offer you.

Here is the real problem; we let anyone’s opinion whether good or bad overpower our beliefs and then we complain why do humans judge? Technically, the amount of work is same in making yourself miserable or strong.

Our ‘extreme’ anxious self does not come from thinking a lot of future, but from wanting to control it. If I could do it over, I wouldn’t change a thing in my life. Because everything that’s happened has brought me here, it is my story. Now, I have learned (the hard way) that some poems don’t rhyme; and some stories don’t have a perfect beginning or end or even the middle. Life is all about staying in the very “NOW” without knowing what is going to happen next. Plan but don’t force. They say what doesn’t kill you, makes you stronger. I don’t agree to it. I believe that things that try to kill you makes you angry and heartbroken. Your actual power comes from the good ‘things’: your family, friends, gratification and contentment of work that you are doing. Those things make you complete. Don’t get worked up over things you can’t change and people you can’t change. Holding on is a tough job, one should carry out only when you know it is all worth in the end. Be patient and keep calm to re-engineer your mind set; control only what you can. Everything Else… Let Go! Not all ‘things’ are relevant!

What is more important is to have a good laugh at your life story, realizing how far you have come, compare your teenage version in a photograph and look at yourself today.  That is the point of life – few people to share emotions with, a fair career, and ambitions to make it bigger and not quitting on self any day.

You Achieving Your Best Life is The Only Important Thing in Life! 

To Most Relevant ‘Things’ – YOU, and Your Happy World!

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Even Miracles Take A Little Time!

“If you focus on what you left behind, you will never see what lies ahead.” — Gusteau

Being in distress or worrying never helped anything. If you have done what you can do best, to be fearful won’t make it any better. It is just a form of negative goal setting.

We as humans, have a bad problem which happens to doubt ourselves and question everything; even our own dreams. You must believe in self, in dreams and it’s worthiness in happening – when believe, believe in it all way unquestionable and implacable. This is where the magic happens.

“Our fate lives within us; you only have to be brave enough to see it.” 

Let’s all of us understand that knowing how to laugh at ourselves instead of crying over our weakness will make us more accommodating and happier. No one is perfect after all. Why people let anyone define their limits because of where they are coming from? Don’t let anyone decide for you, you will be what you want to be. Just don’t give up on believing, for what do not make sense today, will make sense sometime later and everything will settle fair in span of time. Your beliefs will lead you to where you want to be. 

Define your life the way you experienced it. Keep looking and writing your story with touch of little magic of hope and faith – that’s how at the end of the day – you will meet your true self and you will say it was worthwhile. I know that the challenged life is not easy, you break, fall and literally want to give up; but you win when your desire to succeed is greater than your fear of failure.

I know there are no magical shortcuts for solving problems in life, but if you trust me, what it all takes is hope and trust. Don’t be so burdened as if you are to save the world, otherwise you would have been wearing a cape and tight. So, chin up and just do the best you can.   

For today is the good day to try it seems, I send you some stardust and pixie magic that you count on the best things in life; a happy and loving family,  a few but great friends who stay through your worse, strength to be yourself, some courage to cry and ability to face a hard day. Remember, when miracles take a little time; your fairy godmother is on her way, all the struggles and hard times are to vanish!

Hope is Never Lost, Believe in Miracles.

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We Have Tomorrows For A Reason!

“There is a saying in Tibetan, ‘Tragedy should be utilized as a source of strength.’ No matter what sort of difficulties, how painful experience is, if we lose our hope, that’s our real disaster” – Dalai Lama

Ever have of those days where you just can’t win?

Life to me is a journey of the moon; we must go through phases of emptiness to be full again. I know some days are just so hard but there is always hope in tomorrow. Today, it may be one of those days for you where you are hurt physically, emotionally, or mentally. Well if I put it in my favorite word formations; I will say it is one of those days when even my coffee needs coffee.

Maybe it is difficult but some walks we have to take alone. I know it does get cruel sometimes even so you must understand that to heal a wound you have to stop touching it and the logic applies to ‘one of those days’ or ‘not in mood days’ as well. If you feel you did something wrong, own up to what you didn’t do right and that is how you learn and earn respect within self too. Every so often we create a lot of troubles by either over-thinking or expectations. Well, it is not easy to detach from work commitments or people you love but at times it is necessary in order to restore your sanity, your mind and have peace.

With time, it does get harder for everyone to let it go, in spite of that when you do move on – you will realize it was the best decision you have ever made. Remember what Pooh the Beer said to Snoopy, You Live Everyday and Die Only Once!

You become a force when you accept what you are, admit your flaws, your actions and most importantly love yourself in the process of becoming.

Have Faith in Soul, Hope in Mind and Love in Heart! Have your own share of falling, rising, making mistakes, hurting and learning stories. It is all in mind; replace the word of being “brave always” with being “okay” or “happy”?  Not every day has to be a battlefield; someday it can be a rest day too!

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To Everything, I’ve Ever Lost!

“The Trouble is You Think You Have Time” – Buddha

Life is a series of surprising and inevitable changes. We all feel lost sometimes. There are many decisions we have to make in life, so many responsibilities to cope up with, so much of the pressure we feel on how society questions our existence; our strength can sometimes become so clouded. As human beings, we want to know answers to all the questions, but I believe our lives don’t really work that way.

We worry about tomorrow…. Like it’s promised!

The best day of your life is going to be the one when you decide that it is on your own. You alone are responsible for the quality of it. There is no one to motivate, lean on or even blame too; for life becomes a gift which you embrace and it is going to be the best day of your life! It is the same old school concept we learned from trees that lose their leaves every year and yet stand strong for better days coming their way.

We can’t always predict how things are going to work out in the future. We have to trust the process and count on our family & friends when time gets tough. These emotions sometimes also signal that it’s been long you haven’t had sufficient time to connect with yourself. Take a short trip or even a walk-in nature from hustles of everyday life and routine, it will provide you the clarity you have been searching for. We experience the feeling of loosing even because we have lived through so many hardships already be it the jobs we hate, the city we don’t like to fear of controlling life against what will it unfold. We get so mentally paralyzed, but what we actually need to be is persistent, and don’t allow negative thinking to pull us back. We simply have to do the best we can with what we’ve been given, and just try our hardest each day to live life according to our own principles and beliefs.

To Everything That I’ Have Lost… I Would Thank You For The Lessons And Experiences. From regrets and pain, I set you and I free to fade and be happy!

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If I knew what Love is?

“Left Unsaid with a Touch of Maybe, was Such a Chaotic Way of Hope” – Ventum

Can Love for Years Be Forgotten in Hatred of Minutes?

People say stories of love end after getting closure. But do we ever stop loving someone you have loved before? – This question cloaked my mind when I was scrolling some random videos on Internet. I was amazed on how too many perspectives keep me wondering, from Adolescent Love, to Commitment, to priorities of ambition over emotions and what not. I think you would be wondering this too…

Here are some favorite abstracts from readers around which I am sure you will connect as well! Happy Reading!

“It‘s really nice when people say first love and all. But if that was the right person and you actually love the person then the person would be in your life still. If he/she is not in your life anymore means you need to rethink on the value of love that you said had given to the person. And in worst case scenario the two people are separated due to any circumstances then I guess it is human nature that eventually slowly you tend to forget their memories and build new memories with others. It is how the cycle of life goes on. A person doesn’t even remember what they had for lunch or dinner 2 days back. Well, it is just the mind and it is naturally how it works” – Labdhi Daftari

True, love is not only warmth; it’s beyond. Cheers to Mistakes, Regrets and Lessons Learnt.

“You Can’t. Love is not just being together, you can be in Love but not in Relationship.” – Bhumi Joshi

For emotions don’t mean to fade but realise that holding on means pain. Life is all about being ‘balancing’ – that priorities, that emotions and above all satisfaction of very being.

“Actually we can’t forgive the one we loved but it is all circumstances and depth of love and respect for that person” – Saloni Vadher

Living with and giving respect is all we need and be.

“It depends on people involved. Some people do fall out of love when the rush and excitement of being around their significant other fades. This might happen because the strong sense of love you felt for a person was based in sexual infatuation — which is still love, I would argue, but a lesser kind. For others, letting go of those feelings of love is harder, due to their background or their disposition. Some of us also unhealthy hold on to love in unhealthy ways, such as by continuing contact with the person after a relationship has ended, before lingering feelings have been resolved. And one more philosophy answer is, everything is depends on the situation of both person involved into and definitely love is not only defined in human it might be possible some people fall in love with their pet a lot.” – Sachin Kakkad

Love is perspective, needs attention and is definitely more than just a feeling.  

 “No one can stop loving whom they loved before, people just pretend that to feel” – Parth Joshi

Like we say, love never goes, the emotions become a hazy memory locked in heart.

 “No, It is not much easy to forget the person whom we loved a lot” – Raj Joshi

“It doesn’t stop but fades gradually over the period of time” – Chirag Kalal

“Love shouldn’t stop for the spirit of humanity and friendship just equations and prorities change” – Parth Narania

“You never stop loving. Once you love someone honestly, truly, you will never be able to un-love them. You only find someone you will love more. At that time, your old love will not feel so strong, but it is a heart, it will never let you forget something that ever made you happy” – Kevin Mathew

This one happens to be my most favorite ideology of Love.

Well, love, how I see, is the gamble of priorities, emotions and perceive! Somewhere no one and nothing looses. It is simple Myntra of Life… It Goes On!

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Let’s Talk Anxiety!

It is standard to feel anxious from time to time, especially if you live a stressful life. But for many people, anxiety is a constant companion, always lurking behind the next corner. An estimated 2-5% of the population is living with the constant worrying and panic attacks that define one of the most common mental illnesses: generalized anxiety disorder (GAD). Millions more live with social anxiety disorder, panic disorder, and other anxiety conditions. However, too few people discuss these openly. Mental illness still has a social stigma, causing many people keep their condition a secret.

Anxiety Is Real, and It Is Serious!

Don’t think acceptance of stress or anxiety is stupid. It is the threshold from where the disorder may kick in. All of those intense feelings of fear or urge of escaping or running away; losing control of the thoughts and actions, hot or cold flashes, feeling numb, or irrational thoughts; all of these are physical, psychological and emotional symptoms of anxiety. Take a moment now, stop and thank yourself for how far you have come.

Sometimes when anxiety hits, it’s hard to see or think clearly, and you just need something to bring you back down to reality, to know you are in control, and that everything is okay. You have been trying to make changes in your life, and all your efforts count. Find acceptance within yourself! Here I suggest some immediate course of action –

Learn who are your support systems, connect to family and friends, try to communicate and notice the ones that care shall help you through. Realize you WANT to GET BETTER, if you not determined for YOUR better tomorrow, no one can help you out. This has to be your biggest realization that you need to want to get better. Happiness is NOT an achievable GOAL, don’t think that happiness was the goal and everything would be great if only you could be “happy” but happiness isn’t a constant state, it’s not something you can reach one day and then live in forever. Appreciate that life is up and down but also mediocre and that’s okay. Figure out WHAT YOU WANT, sometimes it takes completely losing control over your life to realize what it is you want and which changes you need to make. Self-care is NOT SELFISH, if you constantly keep putting the needs of others above your own and don’t take any time to look after yourself, you will burn out.

There are years that ask questions and years that answer! Be Solid on your End!

 

Please Note, in next blog we shall be discussing social anxiety and mental breakdown issues and how can you deal with it.Keep Reading! Stay Happy and Blessed!

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Don’t Have A Plan, Well, It’s Alright!

It’s not about being perfect every single day. I can summarize my life till date in one sentence: It didn’t go as planned and I am still a happy human! What screws us up the most in life is the picture in our mind of how “It’s” supposed to be.

No one in life has the smooth sailing, I mean, the heartbreaks, fights, failure or giving in to any social pressure. I have seen tears of love lost in many eyes, be it of person fighting a toxic relationship break-up or divorce after vows of togetherness. Worst tears are the ones, which says they have no hopes to look for in life now, the ones shed in front of mirror because that’s only person you have, for the dreams lost or venture which was your brain child failed. Pain and Failure are part of life. Probably, life isn’t about avoiding the bruises; maybe it is about collecting all the battle scars that proves you showed up for it!

Albert Einstein once quoted, “Everybody is genius. But if you judge a fish by its ability to climb a tree, it will live its whole life believing that it is stupid.” If you don’t have a plan, you can end up doing some interesting things. Besides, life is very short to wonder what could have been. Nobody ever wrote down a plan to be broke, lazy or stupid; those things happen when you lose the passion in yourself.

BE STUBBORN ABOUT YOUR GOALS, BUT FLEXIBLE ABOUT YOUR METHODS. Just remember if there is anything you should be willing to bet on, it should be yourself!

Everything in your life is a reflection of a choice you have made, and I am pretty sure it didn’t come with instructions manual either! It is not always about fixing the broken; maybe it’s about starting over and creating something better. In simple words, not always a plan ‘A’ that works for you but a plan with many alphabets in row. It is passion and vision that should drive your commitment. The action plan or the road-map can be altered or rewritten. Your purpose fuels your passion. All you have and all you will ever need is your own fire!

Learn to Embrace the Randomness!

Not everything will go as you planned and it is alright! Maybe that is time when you must drop the expectations and go with the flow. People must realize over-thinking is no solution, you can’t control everything! Have faith and trust yourself, like when in water, you don’t grab hold the water because if you do, you will sink and drown. Instead you relax, and float!

Trust your Madness! It is alright if you don’t have a plan, at least have passion and you are still breathing. You have done it today; you shall do it tomorrow too! There are more important things in life than winning or losing one game!

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When Everything Goes Wrong!

When things go wrong, take moment to be thankful for the many more things that are still going right. Well, if you have still nothing to be grateful for,

“CHECK YOUR PULSE”!

So, the next time when you take life very seriously, and feel rotten, looser and every negative word associated to it – remember that we all are winging it here. No one knows more than anyone else the right way to live, so if things go wrong, remember that everyone is in the same boat. You are not alone here.

When things are really getting tough or totally wrong notice that you will still find it usually getting worse for some time more; but when things once start going right they often go on getting better and better. Don’t let over-thinking destroy your mood. Breathe and calm down. Never allow this “everything wrong” beat you down for too long; you can only move forward and make positive change if you keep a good mindset and allow the tough times to make you stronger.

Sometimes, we even create problems in our own heads that don’t really exist in reality. Stay mindful of your thoughts, and don’t let them control you. Ask this to self, “Is everything really going wrong, or do I just think that based on my perception?”

Remember that you are not a tree; you can move. When everything goes wrong, maybe the best choice is just to move on, set your sights on new horizons, and write a new chapter in your story.

I will recommend you a trick, sometimes try talking to a four-year old and an 84 year old and you will understand life again. Sometimes, we usually forget important lessons we have learnt throughout life that can help us through tough situations AGAIN. When we get a different perspective, it can make all the difference in how we react to a situation. Chances are that we will get our answer, as well as a whole new outlook on life.

Remind yourself all the time, that being afraid of things going wrong isn’t the way to make things go right. So, when things go wrong, SIMPLIFY!

Elvis Presley quoted, “When Things Go Wrong, Don’t Go with Them”. Sometimes, it seems that everything goes wrong, despite our best efforts to make things right. We can do everything in our power to make something work, but life might have different plans. Many of us feel as though we have no control over our lives, and while that might hold some truth to some extent, we do have the power to control how we react to situations.

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When Nothing Goes Right You!

Life is series of unplanned and spontaneous turns or to say changes. Don’t resist them, for it will only bring sorrow and grief to frustrate you even more. So, when nothing goes right for anyone of us – what do we do, where we go and how to even make it work?

We all on a phase of life have unhappy circumstances and those fair shares of good, bad and ugly days. Life is not a journey depicting problem rushing in for solutions but reality lived with experiences. Like everyone does, probably I will recommend you to take a mini escape to travel or be off routine and do anything what you call your favorite. But are escapes a lasting or permanent solution to make things right. Though, there is no doubt about the fact every individual can and must have mini escapes but life is pathway better to have a road-map.

When nothing goes right for you do this – re-approach your plan, strategise and bring in more passion. One factor in your favor and you will be back on track. Tell yourself that so far your track record of passing through bad time is 100% and you have survived already.

“Most of the important things in the world have been accomplished by people who have kept on trying when there seemed to be no hope at all.”—Dale Carnegie

Document little chores, mark the tasks, and note precisely every small achievement on the long path of plan made. When nothing goes right, grab a coffee and corner table. Re-think where the plan went wrong, seek help and take everything you learned from the experience for using it to strategise a new plan for success. Whether it’s an emotional fight or fight for achievement that you feel you are failing, it is that moment you take responsibility for everything in your life. Be happy for little progress everyday being it a habit, a task completed or even a hello from your favorite person who you couldn’t give time too.

Strategise your life and determine what your definition of success is! It is then your accomplishments will be bigger than having wrong time mood swings.

There is always a way through very challenge we are facing right now; all we need a strong mindset focused on positivity and commitment we made to ourselves. With faith forward, we eventually reach to happy place.

When nothing goes right remember it is okay, it is just a place of struggle and struggle is another word of growth. The ones who don’t struggle are the ones who don’t grow. So, if you are struggling right now, see it is a terrific sign – celebrate your struggle! 

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Simply Summer!

It was one of the routine days at College; occupied with lectures, research and scheduled routine chores of work life. I get a message from a dear friend stating, “I NEED A BREAK, IT’S SUMMER ALREADY!” This statement of her gave me an alarm check stating that it’s time to leave! It’s Simply Summer!

Because as Mark Twain states – 20 years from now you will be more disappointed by the things you didn’t do than by the ones you did do and I really do not only wish to make just money but memories too.

Vacation or off routine holidays are much in need for every single 21st Century individual, whether you are into corporate or an entrepreneur or you pretty much hype about enjoying work as an artist. I strongly believe that vacations and escape trips are so much more than off routine holidays; they are experiences which show what is possible and challenge us to examine that paths we will take in future as well.

From Bryan Adams’s Summer of ‘69 to Calvin Harris’s Summer Meeting or TVF’s New Web Series Yeh Meri Family: Summer of ‘98, we connect to all of them. Summer brings nostalgic waves of childhood at Family Home, first crush of teenage, or maybe that favourite grandmother song. Why just living in memories and cursing the life that we work hard for because we forget to summer breaks ourselves.

Let summer be the time when we shed our tensions and opt for mountains or beach whatever we more crave for and have a few of those days where we can be drunk with belief that all is right with the world.

LOOK AT THE SUNNY SIDE OF EVERYTHING! RUN TO MOUNTAINS AND CONNECT TO JOURNEY OF YOUR OWN OR DIVE IN OCEAN WATERS AND EXPERIENCE SOLITUDE.

You need not to be money man or super rich for any of this I believe. Not every escape is costly. I have my friends who are bikers and go mountains on trips (complains on not taking me along remains though) and are corporate employees with limited leaves to manage in. There are lot of tour planners, travel bloggers, explorers, etc. to aid us with very information we need. With an era of having world a click away, don’t miss upon exploring it yourself.

What it takes to smell summer breeze is a plan in advance and desire or a familiar conviction that life was beginning over again with the summer. Let summer be simple, lesser of chaos and more of holidays.

THERE IS ALWAYS THAT ONE SUMMER THAT CHANGES YOU!

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