Tag: Belief

To Most Relevant ‘Things’!

“Comfortable shoes and the freedom to leave are the two most important things in life.” – Shel Silverstein

Regret, mistakes, past stories, break-ups, and every messed angle of your life is actually a chief beauty about time. Embrace both your darkness and lights. Just don’t lose that “muchiness” of yours. I recently had a realization, that an elephant has not really bitten many but everyone definitely has once been bitten by a mosquito; so, lesson learnt is that its little things that gets us.

Nothing will change if you believe your suffering is more important than what change has to offer you.

Here is the real problem; we let anyone’s opinion whether good or bad overpower our beliefs and then we complain why do humans judge? Technically, the amount of work is same in making yourself miserable or strong.

Our ‘extreme’ anxious self does not come from thinking a lot of future, but from wanting to control it. If I could do it over, I wouldn’t change a thing in my life. Because everything that’s happened has brought me here, it is my story. Now, I have learned (the hard way) that some poems don’t rhyme; and some stories don’t have a perfect beginning or end or even the middle. Life is all about staying in the very “NOW” without knowing what is going to happen next. Plan but don’t force. They say what doesn’t kill you, makes you stronger. I don’t agree to it. I believe that things that try to kill you makes you angry and heartbroken. Your actual power comes from the good ‘things’: your family, friends, gratification and contentment of work that you are doing. Those things make you complete. Don’t get worked up over things you can’t change and people you can’t change. Holding on is a tough job, one should carry out only when you know it is all worth in the end. Be patient and keep calm to re-engineer your mind set; control only what you can. Everything Else… Let Go! Not all ‘things’ are relevant!

What is more important is to have a good laugh at your life story, realizing how far you have come, compare your teenage version in a photograph and look at yourself today.  That is the point of life – few people to share emotions with, a fair career, and ambitions to make it bigger and not quitting on self any day.

You Achieving Your Best Life is The Only Important Thing in Life! 

To Most Relevant ‘Things’ – YOU, and Your Happy World!

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Transformation Called ‘You’!

As time passes on, we discover ourselves like a bit new, a bit mature or it might not even be wrong to say equally messed up in a new way!

As we continue to age, we are no longer same, it is a little wiser, a little of an idiot and more of conqueror version of us is what we see. I wake up every morning and I surprise myself. I wake up to new me and I am in love with the process of my development, not because the old me is bad; but, because, the old me can improve.

Believe in yourself and all that you are. Know that there is something inside you that is greater than any obstacle

I feel so happy and proud of every individual out there who has taken absolute 100% responsibility of their life – be good, bad or ugly! Love yourself through the process of owning your story and it is going to be the bravest thing you will ever do. Trust me, straight or hassle free roads don’t make good drivers. Don’t be afraid to start over, for that’s not the start from scratch but from experience.

Enjoy the beauty of becoming! If nothing is certain, anything can be made possible. All the hardships, miseries, or things that broke you and every challenge you have faced – you have grown stronger, wiser and more compassionate. Do you recall the biggest challenge you faced this year? Prior to it, did you ever think you could survive that? Got your answer I suppose… Isn’t this something you felt proud about!

“My Interest in Life Comes From Setting Myself Huge, Apparently Unachievable Challenges, and Trying to Rise above Them” – Richard Branson

You are enough – a little more extra or not too much – but enough for yourself. Like Ellen DeGeneres quotes, “I enjoy growing older and wiser and learning from mistakes every single day”. You know the phase right now, maybe the toughest, feels we must quit; instead of thinking any of miseries why we do not accept it. Accept – then act. Whatever is going in present can be solved, just take time and rearrange. Take pride in battles fought and scars owned.

More than any recognition, acknowledge yourself! Be Proud of “Transformed You”, Wiser and Stronger! You are worthy of all your dreams!

 

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If I knew what Love is?

“Left Unsaid with a Touch of Maybe, was Such a Chaotic Way of Hope” – Ventum

Can Love for Years Be Forgotten in Hatred of Minutes?

People say stories of love end after getting closure. But do we ever stop loving someone you have loved before? – This question cloaked my mind when I was scrolling some random videos on Internet. I was amazed on how too many perspectives keep me wondering, from Adolescent Love, to Commitment, to priorities of ambition over emotions and what not. I think you would be wondering this too…

Here are some favorite abstracts from readers around which I am sure you will connect as well! Happy Reading!

“It‘s really nice when people say first love and all. But if that was the right person and you actually love the person then the person would be in your life still. If he/she is not in your life anymore means you need to rethink on the value of love that you said had given to the person. And in worst case scenario the two people are separated due to any circumstances then I guess it is human nature that eventually slowly you tend to forget their memories and build new memories with others. It is how the cycle of life goes on. A person doesn’t even remember what they had for lunch or dinner 2 days back. Well, it is just the mind and it is naturally how it works” – Labdhi Daftari

True, love is not only warmth; it’s beyond. Cheers to Mistakes, Regrets and Lessons Learnt.

“You Can’t. Love is not just being together, you can be in Love but not in Relationship.” – Bhumi Joshi

For emotions don’t mean to fade but realise that holding on means pain. Life is all about being ‘balancing’ – that priorities, that emotions and above all satisfaction of very being.

“Actually we can’t forgive the one we loved but it is all circumstances and depth of love and respect for that person” – Saloni Vadher

Living with and giving respect is all we need and be.

“It depends on people involved. Some people do fall out of love when the rush and excitement of being around their significant other fades. This might happen because the strong sense of love you felt for a person was based in sexual infatuation — which is still love, I would argue, but a lesser kind. For others, letting go of those feelings of love is harder, due to their background or their disposition. Some of us also unhealthy hold on to love in unhealthy ways, such as by continuing contact with the person after a relationship has ended, before lingering feelings have been resolved. And one more philosophy answer is, everything is depends on the situation of both person involved into and definitely love is not only defined in human it might be possible some people fall in love with their pet a lot.” – Sachin Kakkad

Love is perspective, needs attention and is definitely more than just a feeling.  

 “No one can stop loving whom they loved before, people just pretend that to feel” – Parth Joshi

Like we say, love never goes, the emotions become a hazy memory locked in heart.

 “No, It is not much easy to forget the person whom we loved a lot” – Raj Joshi

“It doesn’t stop but fades gradually over the period of time” – Chirag Kalal

“Love shouldn’t stop for the spirit of humanity and friendship just equations and prorities change” – Parth Narania

“You never stop loving. Once you love someone honestly, truly, you will never be able to un-love them. You only find someone you will love more. At that time, your old love will not feel so strong, but it is a heart, it will never let you forget something that ever made you happy” – Kevin Mathew

This one happens to be my most favorite ideology of Love.

Well, love, how I see, is the gamble of priorities, emotions and perceive! Somewhere no one and nothing looses. It is simple Myntra of Life… It Goes On!

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Something Positive Please!

I want to tell you a secret today, a great secret that will see you through all the trails life can offer. You must always remember this, “Have Courage, and Be Kind!”

We, the humans, have long forgotten the power of faith, love and hope; against the darkness of fear, failures and negativity. Believe in love, in existence of magic, in others, in yourself, and believe in your dreams; for if you won’t, who will? You can’t have a positive life with negative mind.

Almost every successful people begin with two beliefs: the future can be better than the present, and I have the power to make it so. The art is not seeing the world as it is, but to see how it can be – to do this all you need is courage, kindness and occasionally a bit of magic!

Be a Nice Human! For love and Kindness are never wasted. “Carry Out Random Act of Kindness, with No Expectation of Reward, Safe in the Knowledge that One Day Someone Might Do the Same for You” – Princess Diana

People should always remember that past cannot be changed and everyone’s journey is different. Opinions don’t define reality and judgments are a confession of character, so don’t over-think for it will only bring sadness. If you too believe that what goes around, comes around – well, stay positive and create because a smile is contagious and kindness is free. A positive attitude causes a chain of reaction of positive thoughts, events and outcomes. It is a catalyst and it sparks extraordinary results.

Tell me this, how old would you be if you didn’t know how old you are?

What is your simple pleasure in life?

“It’s the simple things in life that are the most extraordinary.” – Paulo Coelho.

How underrated is a hug from favorite person, a warm cup of coffee, or even a boop on nose of dog? I found it is the small everyday deeds of ordinary people that keep the darkness at bay! Small Acts of Kindness & Love! Everything in life is temporary. Be patient, be positive, and watch the endless amount of blessings you will receive. You will never regret being kind and passing affirmations.

Tell this to yourself everyday – I am Enough, I am Full of Sparkle & Compassion. I genuinely want to make the world a better place. I will practice kindness and have courage to work hard. I will make mistakes but importantly will own them. Sometimes I will make a lot of mistakes, but I will learn from them because I am Enough, I am Contented!

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You Can’t Escape Yourself!

Sometimes You Don’t Get To Call The Shots!

Sometimes you feel like you can’t because you don’t know who you want to be. You feel like the life is ruined, people have alienated you and then that feeling of being lost! Despite of knowing it all, you are not the toughest one! But, the day you decide to get your head up and work about it; that’s when you make the best decisions of your life.

Learn the Talent of Facing Criticism!

Learn this and discover that success isn’t about winning. It’s the same old school saying, it is about staying in the game and not quitting or letting someone make you quit. I want you all to realize that all the hardships and all the criticism that you face is making you a better person.

So, don’t quit now, not before you learn that no matter what you do or where you go, YOU CAN’T ESCAPE YOURSELF! 

I also have had my own share of making great effort on knowing who I want to be!

I keep on struggling about what to say, so stop thinking. I was convinced I didn’t know who I wanted to be. And then, I realized the answer was all around me. I want to be someone who is willing to forgive. I want to be someone that cares more about others than themselves. I want to be someone who can tell it like it is. I want to be someone who would give up everything for the right reason. I want to be someone who sees the best in everyone. I want to be someone who is a true friend. I want to be someone who always tries to be better person, and someone who learns from their mistakes. I guess I just want to be someone who encompasses all those things so I can finally be that person who doesn’t need to make life larger than reality to be happy.

Because I will know how to dance all on my own and will make it somewhere near to where I imagined.

 

 

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Don’t Have A Plan, Well, It’s Alright!

It’s not about being perfect every single day. I can summarize my life till date in one sentence: It didn’t go as planned and I am still a happy human! What screws us up the most in life is the picture in our mind of how “It’s” supposed to be.

No one in life has the smooth sailing, I mean, the heartbreaks, fights, failure or giving in to any social pressure. I have seen tears of love lost in many eyes, be it of person fighting a toxic relationship break-up or divorce after vows of togetherness. Worst tears are the ones, which says they have no hopes to look for in life now, the ones shed in front of mirror because that’s only person you have, for the dreams lost or venture which was your brain child failed. Pain and Failure are part of life. Probably, life isn’t about avoiding the bruises; maybe it is about collecting all the battle scars that proves you showed up for it!

Albert Einstein once quoted, “Everybody is genius. But if you judge a fish by its ability to climb a tree, it will live its whole life believing that it is stupid.” If you don’t have a plan, you can end up doing some interesting things. Besides, life is very short to wonder what could have been. Nobody ever wrote down a plan to be broke, lazy or stupid; those things happen when you lose the passion in yourself.

BE STUBBORN ABOUT YOUR GOALS, BUT FLEXIBLE ABOUT YOUR METHODS. Just remember if there is anything you should be willing to bet on, it should be yourself!

Everything in your life is a reflection of a choice you have made, and I am pretty sure it didn’t come with instructions manual either! It is not always about fixing the broken; maybe it’s about starting over and creating something better. In simple words, not always a plan ‘A’ that works for you but a plan with many alphabets in row. It is passion and vision that should drive your commitment. The action plan or the road-map can be altered or rewritten. Your purpose fuels your passion. All you have and all you will ever need is your own fire!

Learn to Embrace the Randomness!

Not everything will go as you planned and it is alright! Maybe that is time when you must drop the expectations and go with the flow. People must realize over-thinking is no solution, you can’t control everything! Have faith and trust yourself, like when in water, you don’t grab hold the water because if you do, you will sink and drown. Instead you relax, and float!

Trust your Madness! It is alright if you don’t have a plan, at least have passion and you are still breathing. You have done it today; you shall do it tomorrow too! There are more important things in life than winning or losing one game!

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We Shall Overcome, Some Day!

Before I pen down my thoughts in the article, I want to write a big thank you to Pete Seeger, the song ‘We Shall Overcome’ is an inspiring force!

Do you ever think about going somewhere, where nobody knows you and start a new life?

Mental Conflicts, Emotional Drama and Unexplained Pain; everyone is fighting a battle within. And what all of us just wish, is some escape!

Hint – “Let’s NOT try to figure out EVERYTHING at ONCE.” 

Dear Readers, I can tell you over and over again to leave this situation or time which is tough as hell, but you won’t be able to, not until you are ready. One day you will get up in the morning and realize that this is not what you want to feel like anymore and trust me you will be done. And I think it’s important!

Things like people screwing you, fights with family, heartbreaks, loss of friends whom you thought would always be right beside you and that everyone has a past kind of feelings, which are full of tears, embarrassment and even laughter. You will experience the things that will shock you or even worst, break you. But then, there will be the time when you will sit back and realize that tough times come to people who can survive it and this is what you are.

Understand, there is always a season of wildness and a season of subtleness; news – the time right now is for neither. Don’t push yourself like fast-forward button in future that you haven’t recognized yet and even don’t be stuck in past. With all love, intensity and courage give “you” a brighter today.

Our struggles are never insignificant. Don’t hide, or refuse to cry out. We all are broken and we all are humans, and we are never alone. Sometimes all you need is probably 20 seconds of insane courage, just literally 20 seconds of embarrassing bravery. Your greatest need is to clean out the enormous mass of mental and emotional rubbish that is disturbing your mind. You need to learn how to select your thoughts just the same way you would probably select your clothes. At the end of the day, we can either focus on what is tearing us apart or what is holding us together!

You can decide how long you choose the negative things affect you. You can close-down words of self-doubt against self-love. You can let go of yesterday and start fresh at any given moments. It all starts and ends with you. Your mindset is your compass!

Move, travel, take a class, take risks, and go to 2am people who have stood by you and are still standing holding you! In case, your 2am people list is incomplete – Well, Come Over! I don’t really mind whether we talk for hours, get blind drunk or sit in silence gazing stars. I know world down here just gets a bit much, and we all need to lose ourselves for a little while!

But Don’t Worry – We Shall Over Come, Some Day!

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When Everything Goes Wrong!

When things go wrong, take moment to be thankful for the many more things that are still going right. Well, if you have still nothing to be grateful for,

“CHECK YOUR PULSE”!

So, the next time when you take life very seriously, and feel rotten, looser and every negative word associated to it – remember that we all are winging it here. No one knows more than anyone else the right way to live, so if things go wrong, remember that everyone is in the same boat. You are not alone here.

When things are really getting tough or totally wrong notice that you will still find it usually getting worse for some time more; but when things once start going right they often go on getting better and better. Don’t let over-thinking destroy your mood. Breathe and calm down. Never allow this “everything wrong” beat you down for too long; you can only move forward and make positive change if you keep a good mindset and allow the tough times to make you stronger.

Sometimes, we even create problems in our own heads that don’t really exist in reality. Stay mindful of your thoughts, and don’t let them control you. Ask this to self, “Is everything really going wrong, or do I just think that based on my perception?”

Remember that you are not a tree; you can move. When everything goes wrong, maybe the best choice is just to move on, set your sights on new horizons, and write a new chapter in your story.

I will recommend you a trick, sometimes try talking to a four-year old and an 84 year old and you will understand life again. Sometimes, we usually forget important lessons we have learnt throughout life that can help us through tough situations AGAIN. When we get a different perspective, it can make all the difference in how we react to a situation. Chances are that we will get our answer, as well as a whole new outlook on life.

Remind yourself all the time, that being afraid of things going wrong isn’t the way to make things go right. So, when things go wrong, SIMPLIFY!

Elvis Presley quoted, “When Things Go Wrong, Don’t Go with Them”. Sometimes, it seems that everything goes wrong, despite our best efforts to make things right. We can do everything in our power to make something work, but life might have different plans. Many of us feel as though we have no control over our lives, and while that might hold some truth to some extent, we do have the power to control how we react to situations.

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What Broke You?

It’s Time to Move On!

-Whatever you thought about while reading this, IT’S GOING TO BE OKAY!

My mother always taught me that human behavior flows from sources of desire, knowledge and emotions. It’s emotions that make us humans. Emotions are strong and intuitive feeling which is distinguished from reasoning or knowledge. More than confusing or breaking you, let it be an experience. Here is a thought to not only on overcoming emotions but accepting it; accepting our flaws and failures. We must accept the understanding that it’s tears that can make us strong and heartbreaks that makes us wiser. So, please thank your past for a better future. We have to admit this one simple fact which is that how many times we try and visit past, it has nothing new to offer us.

Those failures, stupidities, ugly points, imperfections, or heartbreaks; sometimes it does take a good fall to really know where you are standing. The hardest battle that we have ever fought is with ourselves. We have to let go of the thoughts that don’t make us strong. Embrace Failures! Missteps, roadblocks or losing someone you loved truly or moaning the loss of person who is not round; well, if are still breathing reading this, you will be fine. Some failures in life are inevitable. It is impossible to live without failing in something. We are strong enough to face it all, even if we doesn’t feel it correct right now.

A broken heart is not broken life or a broken future. Take all the time you need to heal emotionally. Moving on doesn’t take a day. It takes a lot of little steps to be able to break free of your broken self. I request all of you not to live behind excuses. If your past was tough, work hard for yourself, and make your future better. Do not repeat the same mistakes, whether they are yours or someone else’s.

Atticus quoted “We Are of All Those Who Have Built and Broken Us.”

Know this; We Can Start Over, Each Morning!

What has broken you? Never forget: How far you have come. Everything you have been through. All the times you have pushed on even when you felt you couldn’t. All the mornings you got out of bed no matter how hard it was. All the times you wanted to give up but you got through another day. Never ever forget that how much of strength and persistence you have developed and learned along the way.

Let your SELF be a powerful force that you are. Be your own fire because life that you have got is to learn new things, experience and most importantly to EXIST LOUDLY!   

 

What is To Exist? Well, It’s Freedom!

“And does not true freedom mean choosing ways in this world that to the good of all and are guided by love?” – Pope Francis

Reading one of the morning affirmations today, the above stated quote of Pope Francis got my attention and made me wonder that what actually freedom is; whether it is Love, Existence, Self-Reliance, or a State of Mind.

Freedom is acceptance, the ability to embrace mistakes, choices that turn out good, bad or ugly and not denying fears. Instead of trying very harsh on making your life perfect, give yourself the freedom to make it an adventure! Freedom as a word never meant breaking chains; rather it is the power to choose your own chains. There is no greater freedom than the freedom to be you. Our minds are powerful thing; we have to fill it with positive thoughts.

Here is my secret of Happiness and Being a Free Soul: I DON’T MIND WHAT HAPPENS!

Freedom is nothing else than a chance to be better. I believe no one outside ourselves can rule us inwardly and when we realize this, I think we become free. While thinking on penning down my article on freedom – the very first thought I had, looked like this – “freedom is that instant between when someone tells you to do something and when you decide how to respond”.

I think giving right direction on attainment of freedom is like giving the ones you love wings to fly, roots to come back and reasons to stay ahead that liberation is the best gift we can give our generations in return. Love is only freedom from attachment. When you love everything, you are attached to nothing. Freedom consists not in refusing to recognize anything above us, but in respecting something which is above us; for by respecting it, we raise ourselves to it, and, by our very acknowledgment, prove that we bear within ourselves what is higher, and are worthy to be on a level with it.

I always quote Benjamin Franklin when discussing liberation and freedom it was “Without freedom of thought, there can be no such thing as wisdom – and no such thing as public liberty without freedom of speech”. I think freedom is to find you by thinking of yourself. Doing what you love is freedom.

It is our greatest responsibility to love ourselves and know that we are enough. That’s Freedom!

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