Tag: Balance

Try to Love the Questions!

Living a life mindful doesn’t mean pushing positive all the time, instead it seeing the picture of life as a whole; realizing and giving self-acknowledgment. Remember to keep an open mind towards every aspect of it.

No matter how bad the circumstances are, please know it can get always worse. We have to learn patience with everything that is unsolved in our heart. Never search for the answers which cannot be given to you now because then it will be difficult to digest living with it. And right now, the point is to live everything!

“If You Have to Eat a Frog, Don’t Spend a Lot of Time Looking at it First. And if You Have to Eat Three of Them, Don’t Start with the Small One” – Randy Pausch

Learn the attitude of finding a way to be happy always, if you can’t be happy with your surroundings right now; learn finding a way to be happy WITHOUT IT. Give yourself permission to make mistakes, own it and above all be rational in treating yourself with what you have in hands then. As a single footstep will not make a path on the earth, so a single thought will not make a pathway in the mind as well! We must think over and over the kind of thoughts we wish to dominate our lives with.

We all have to search something that we love enough that it either breaks us or let us brick walls! I feel we end up at a large hurdle when we don’t have that kind of feeling for what we are doing. The emotions and war within us is the most difficult one to fight. I have a solution to this situation; just ask yourself what you would really attempt to do, if you knew you will not fail?

Neither everything needs to be fixed, nor is every decision to be taken today. I believe that the way we know we are on right path is that it eventually works out. Then, it doesn’t mean we will not have troubles or obstacles but it does mean that we can find a way around it or alter ourselves or our journey in order to find the flow AGAIN and Have it WORK!

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To Most Relevant ‘Things’!

“Comfortable shoes and the freedom to leave are the two most important things in life.” – Shel Silverstein

Regret, mistakes, past stories, break-ups, and every messed angle of your life is actually a chief beauty about time. Embrace both your darkness and lights. Just don’t lose that “muchiness” of yours. I recently had a realization, that an elephant has not really bitten many but everyone definitely has once been bitten by a mosquito; so, lesson learnt is that its little things that gets us.

Nothing will change if you believe your suffering is more important than what change has to offer you.

Here is the real problem; we let anyone’s opinion whether good or bad overpower our beliefs and then we complain why do humans judge? Technically, the amount of work is same in making yourself miserable or strong.

Our ‘extreme’ anxious self does not come from thinking a lot of future, but from wanting to control it. If I could do it over, I wouldn’t change a thing in my life. Because everything that’s happened has brought me here, it is my story. Now, I have learned (the hard way) that some poems don’t rhyme; and some stories don’t have a perfect beginning or end or even the middle. Life is all about staying in the very “NOW” without knowing what is going to happen next. Plan but don’t force. They say what doesn’t kill you, makes you stronger. I don’t agree to it. I believe that things that try to kill you makes you angry and heartbroken. Your actual power comes from the good ‘things’: your family, friends, gratification and contentment of work that you are doing. Those things make you complete. Don’t get worked up over things you can’t change and people you can’t change. Holding on is a tough job, one should carry out only when you know it is all worth in the end. Be patient and keep calm to re-engineer your mind set; control only what you can. Everything Else… Let Go! Not all ‘things’ are relevant!

What is more important is to have a good laugh at your life story, realizing how far you have come, compare your teenage version in a photograph and look at yourself today.  That is the point of life – few people to share emotions with, a fair career, and ambitions to make it bigger and not quitting on self any day.

You Achieving Your Best Life is The Only Important Thing in Life! 

To Most Relevant ‘Things’ – YOU, and Your Happy World!

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To Everything, I’ve Ever Lost!

“The Trouble is You Think You Have Time” – Buddha

Life is a series of surprising and inevitable changes. We all feel lost sometimes. There are many decisions we have to make in life, so many responsibilities to cope up with, so much of the pressure we feel on how society questions our existence; our strength can sometimes become so clouded. As human beings, we want to know answers to all the questions, but I believe our lives don’t really work that way.

We worry about tomorrow…. Like it’s promised!

The best day of your life is going to be the one when you decide that it is on your own. You alone are responsible for the quality of it. There is no one to motivate, lean on or even blame too; for life becomes a gift which you embrace and it is going to be the best day of your life! It is the same old school concept we learned from trees that lose their leaves every year and yet stand strong for better days coming their way.

We can’t always predict how things are going to work out in the future. We have to trust the process and count on our family & friends when time gets tough. These emotions sometimes also signal that it’s been long you haven’t had sufficient time to connect with yourself. Take a short trip or even a walk-in nature from hustles of everyday life and routine, it will provide you the clarity you have been searching for. We experience the feeling of loosing even because we have lived through so many hardships already be it the jobs we hate, the city we don’t like to fear of controlling life against what will it unfold. We get so mentally paralyzed, but what we actually need to be is persistent, and don’t allow negative thinking to pull us back. We simply have to do the best we can with what we’ve been given, and just try our hardest each day to live life according to our own principles and beliefs.

To Everything That I’ Have Lost… I Would Thank You For The Lessons And Experiences. From regrets and pain, I set you and I free to fade and be happy!

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Let’s Talk Anxiety!

It is standard to feel anxious from time to time, especially if you live a stressful life. But for many people, anxiety is a constant companion, always lurking behind the next corner. An estimated 2-5% of the population is living with the constant worrying and panic attacks that define one of the most common mental illnesses: generalized anxiety disorder (GAD). Millions more live with social anxiety disorder, panic disorder, and other anxiety conditions. However, too few people discuss these openly. Mental illness still has a social stigma, causing many people keep their condition a secret.

Anxiety Is Real, and It Is Serious!

Don’t think acceptance of stress or anxiety is stupid. It is the threshold from where the disorder may kick in. All of those intense feelings of fear or urge of escaping or running away; losing control of the thoughts and actions, hot or cold flashes, feeling numb, or irrational thoughts; all of these are physical, psychological and emotional symptoms of anxiety. Take a moment now, stop and thank yourself for how far you have come.

Sometimes when anxiety hits, it’s hard to see or think clearly, and you just need something to bring you back down to reality, to know you are in control, and that everything is okay. You have been trying to make changes in your life, and all your efforts count. Find acceptance within yourself! Here I suggest some immediate course of action –

Learn who are your support systems, connect to family and friends, try to communicate and notice the ones that care shall help you through. Realize you WANT to GET BETTER, if you not determined for YOUR better tomorrow, no one can help you out. This has to be your biggest realization that you need to want to get better. Happiness is NOT an achievable GOAL, don’t think that happiness was the goal and everything would be great if only you could be “happy” but happiness isn’t a constant state, it’s not something you can reach one day and then live in forever. Appreciate that life is up and down but also mediocre and that’s okay. Figure out WHAT YOU WANT, sometimes it takes completely losing control over your life to realize what it is you want and which changes you need to make. Self-care is NOT SELFISH, if you constantly keep putting the needs of others above your own and don’t take any time to look after yourself, you will burn out.

There are years that ask questions and years that answer! Be Solid on your End!

 

Please Note, in next blog we shall be discussing social anxiety and mental breakdown issues and how can you deal with it.Keep Reading! Stay Happy and Blessed!

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What Broke You?

It’s Time to Move On!

-Whatever you thought about while reading this, IT’S GOING TO BE OKAY!

My mother always taught me that human behavior flows from sources of desire, knowledge and emotions. It’s emotions that make us humans. Emotions are strong and intuitive feeling which is distinguished from reasoning or knowledge. More than confusing or breaking you, let it be an experience. Here is a thought to not only on overcoming emotions but accepting it; accepting our flaws and failures. We must accept the understanding that it’s tears that can make us strong and heartbreaks that makes us wiser. So, please thank your past for a better future. We have to admit this one simple fact which is that how many times we try and visit past, it has nothing new to offer us.

Those failures, stupidities, ugly points, imperfections, or heartbreaks; sometimes it does take a good fall to really know where you are standing. The hardest battle that we have ever fought is with ourselves. We have to let go of the thoughts that don’t make us strong. Embrace Failures! Missteps, roadblocks or losing someone you loved truly or moaning the loss of person who is not round; well, if are still breathing reading this, you will be fine. Some failures in life are inevitable. It is impossible to live without failing in something. We are strong enough to face it all, even if we doesn’t feel it correct right now.

A broken heart is not broken life or a broken future. Take all the time you need to heal emotionally. Moving on doesn’t take a day. It takes a lot of little steps to be able to break free of your broken self. I request all of you not to live behind excuses. If your past was tough, work hard for yourself, and make your future better. Do not repeat the same mistakes, whether they are yours or someone else’s.

Atticus quoted “We Are of All Those Who Have Built and Broken Us.”

Know this; We Can Start Over, Each Morning!

What has broken you? Never forget: How far you have come. Everything you have been through. All the times you have pushed on even when you felt you couldn’t. All the mornings you got out of bed no matter how hard it was. All the times you wanted to give up but you got through another day. Never ever forget that how much of strength and persistence you have developed and learned along the way.

Let your SELF be a powerful force that you are. Be your own fire because life that you have got is to learn new things, experience and most importantly to EXIST LOUDLY!   

 

Between what is Urgent and Important!

After writing on Time Management, I received any questions on how to solve the crucial trick of balancing the priorities, daily essentials and lack of time. Well, to this I use to answer it in a quote of Scott Caan, “Good Things Happen when you get your priorities straight.”

I believe timing is everything and you can’t do everything at same time. Hence, it is fair to schedule your priorities and not to prioritize the schedule. That’s where the real balancing act starts – first manage the important, it will directly decrease the lot of urgency. Instead daily increase in things to be completed- implement daily decrease by cutting away inessentials. We loose on the maintaining timings or day plans by spending much on urgent and not sufficient time on what is important. Things or activities important should never be kept the mercy of which matters the least in the specific time gap. A Scottish proverb taught me that what may be done at any time will be done at no time. Everyone in life has to make a conscious decision to choose their priorities every day.

Actually, what separates losers and achievers is the energy on the best use of the valuable given time. One should never lose the energy in what cannot be done rather invest on all possible deliverable of what can be done.

Do what Matters – NOW!

Our actions are governed by choices we determine in shape of priorities we set. This statement can be easily explained by saying that people must first do the duty near and path for next will be cleared automatically. The more I pen on priorities and time management or deciding on important tasks, my confidence on ancient rule of first things first increases. It is like a process which often decreases the complex human problems to manageable proportions.

No one will hand you an organisational chart. You hand it yourself.

Actually, people must never be scared of deadlines; they are not bad. They help us organize the time, set priorities, and make you run for goal set even when you feel laid back. Our journey of life we live is the summary of decision taken every day and those are determined by priorities. Establishing our priorities will save us from all getting into troubled waters of choices because we can delay but time will not. And remember,

Tomorrow is often the busiest day of the week!

Start and March on the Completion of the Tasks! Hazy View on the dilemmas or anxiety of ‘stuck zone’ will clear itself!

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Make A Life!

To that idea of Work-Life Balance, with so many sayings and articles on managing Work-Life Balance – let me tell you something straight that even when we win the rat race, well, we are still rats.

It is by attempting to reach the top at a single leap that so much misery is caused in the world.

 In this era of busy world, to prioritize between work and personal life is huge challenge. Even more challenging is being troubled by great ambitions. Though, one can’t achieve or even start something without ambition. But what creates chaos in mind and work life balance is dis-proportioned routine we follow. The fine line of difference lies in understanding your priorities and desires. Sometimes, we as Human confuse ourselves in our own unrealistic world which has no existence when applied. The fantasy of being in Howgarts and studying magic or rather being a multiple billion archaeologist like Tomb Raider; are we really being true to ourselves in understanding the surroundings we dwell in. What are we Humans running for when it comes to living?

Sense of achievement or desires is never ending quest. But, humans as rational being has we are, as always have found ways to succeed and be happy in life. Work made happy and gladly maintain the balance conceptualized about. Well, we have travel bloggers and communities like ‘stayonskill’ or ‘destinedtravellers’ and many more to name who are not billionaires by now but have more than million followers and are enrich by experience of various places around the globe. Entrepreneurs like Mr Vasu Mahajan, who is the founder of ‘Asia English Teacher’ which offers an Australian accredited and internationally recognized Certificate IV in TESOL. Fondly calls himself a BRAT (BACKPACKER, RIDER, and TEACHER) happily works around the Asia for 5 days and explores surroundings remaining days. Work-Life Balance never troubles them.

So, here is try to bring you people an acceptable definition of Work-Life Balance or making a life; it does not mean an equal balance. Life is and has to be more liquid (able to flow easily). The acceptance of the fact that your perfect individual work-life balance will vary from time to time, often on daily basis is important to do. Achievement and Enjoyment – simple it is. Walk easy and appreciate very small achievement.

Life will deliver the value and balance we desire. Divide your achievement and enjoyment in simple four parts: Work, Self, Family and Friends. All you need to do is focus on them as key components. So, make it happen for yourself and all important people of your life.

For rest of your life everyday achieve and enjoy!

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