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What Matters? You!

Let me ask all of you a question, “YOU HAVE THIS ONE LIFE. How do you want to spend it? Apologizing? Regretting? Questioning? Hating Yourself? Dieting? Running behind people who DON’T see you?

I always get this question in my mind whenever somebody says “Life is Hard”, I am really tempted to know “Compared to what?” It took me around mid 20s of my age to realize that why do we worry about the world coming to an end today; it is already tomorrow in Japan and Australia.

In life, we all are free to choose, but we aren’t free from the consequences of our choice. Some choices will be good, some bad, and some of the worst choices might make good stories; but every choice shapes your future. So Cry, Forgive, Learn and Move On!

Never let a bad situation bring out the worst in you. Stop complaining about the things you are not willing to change. Remember, the first step in getting what you want is having the courage to get rid of what you don’t. You don’t become strongest when you show strength in front of others but when you win the battles no one knew anything about. I know all of us have a new adventure probably everyday that doesn’t only tears us apart, but shatters and drains us emotionally. But still, understand that you have to fight your own war and win; because all you did yesterday, all your scars, all your victories are already at stake. It’s just one more time in everyday life. This reminds me one of the quotes of Donald Trump, “If you’re going to be thinking, you may as well think big.” So, cultivate an optimistic mind, use your imagination, always consider alternatives, and dare to believe that you can make it possible.

There are mistakes we make in our lives that cannot be fixed. And despite our best efforts and our best intentions, there are people who sometimes will not forgive you. There are also things that we, in our own lives, cannot forgive in others. This is just part of the human experience.

Be wise enough to understand that not everything can be fixed, and then who are you going to be? Well, Be You! That’s all you can do, no matter how strong the current beats against you, or how heavy your burden, or how tragic your love story. YOU KEEP GOING!

For what is worth: I hope you are living a life, you’re proud of; and if not, I wish you all the strength it takes for you to start over!

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You Can’t Escape Yourself!

Sometimes You Don’t Get To Call The Shots!

Sometimes you feel like you can’t because you don’t know who you want to be. You feel like the life is ruined, people have alienated you and then that feeling of being lost! Despite of knowing it all, you are not the toughest one! But, the day you decide to get your head up and work about it; that’s when you make the best decisions of your life.

Learn the Talent of Facing Criticism!

Learn this and discover that success isn’t about winning. It’s the same old school saying, it is about staying in the game and not quitting or letting someone make you quit. I want you all to realize that all the hardships and all the criticism that you face is making you a better person.

So, don’t quit now, not before you learn that no matter what you do or where you go, YOU CAN’T ESCAPE YOURSELF! 

I also have had my own share of making great effort on knowing who I want to be!

I keep on struggling about what to say, so stop thinking. I was convinced I didn’t know who I wanted to be. And then, I realized the answer was all around me. I want to be someone who is willing to forgive. I want to be someone that cares more about others than themselves. I want to be someone who can tell it like it is. I want to be someone who would give up everything for the right reason. I want to be someone who sees the best in everyone. I want to be someone who is a true friend. I want to be someone who always tries to be better person, and someone who learns from their mistakes. I guess I just want to be someone who encompasses all those things so I can finally be that person who doesn’t need to make life larger than reality to be happy.

Because I will know how to dance all on my own and will make it somewhere near to where I imagined.

 

 

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We Shall Overcome, Some Day!

Before I pen down my thoughts in the article, I want to write a big thank you to Pete Seeger, the song ‘We Shall Overcome’ is an inspiring force!

Do you ever think about going somewhere, where nobody knows you and start a new life?

Mental Conflicts, Emotional Drama and Unexplained Pain; everyone is fighting a battle within. And what all of us just wish, is some escape!

Hint – “Let’s NOT try to figure out EVERYTHING at ONCE.” 

Dear Readers, I can tell you over and over again to leave this situation or time which is tough as hell, but you won’t be able to, not until you are ready. One day you will get up in the morning and realize that this is not what you want to feel like anymore and trust me you will be done. And I think it’s important!

Things like people screwing you, fights with family, heartbreaks, loss of friends whom you thought would always be right beside you and that everyone has a past kind of feelings, which are full of tears, embarrassment and even laughter. You will experience the things that will shock you or even worst, break you. But then, there will be the time when you will sit back and realize that tough times come to people who can survive it and this is what you are.

Understand, there is always a season of wildness and a season of subtleness; news – the time right now is for neither. Don’t push yourself like fast-forward button in future that you haven’t recognized yet and even don’t be stuck in past. With all love, intensity and courage give “you” a brighter today.

Our struggles are never insignificant. Don’t hide, or refuse to cry out. We all are broken and we all are humans, and we are never alone. Sometimes all you need is probably 20 seconds of insane courage, just literally 20 seconds of embarrassing bravery. Your greatest need is to clean out the enormous mass of mental and emotional rubbish that is disturbing your mind. You need to learn how to select your thoughts just the same way you would probably select your clothes. At the end of the day, we can either focus on what is tearing us apart or what is holding us together!

You can decide how long you choose the negative things affect you. You can close-down words of self-doubt against self-love. You can let go of yesterday and start fresh at any given moments. It all starts and ends with you. Your mindset is your compass!

Move, travel, take a class, take risks, and go to 2am people who have stood by you and are still standing holding you! In case, your 2am people list is incomplete – Well, Come Over! I don’t really mind whether we talk for hours, get blind drunk or sit in silence gazing stars. I know world down here just gets a bit much, and we all need to lose ourselves for a little while!

But Don’t Worry – We Shall Over Come, Some Day!

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Make A Life!

To that idea of Work-Life Balance, with so many sayings and articles on managing Work-Life Balance – let me tell you something straight that even when we win the rat race, well, we are still rats.

It is by attempting to reach the top at a single leap that so much misery is caused in the world.

 In this era of busy world, to prioritize between work and personal life is huge challenge. Even more challenging is being troubled by great ambitions. Though, one can’t achieve or even start something without ambition. But what creates chaos in mind and work life balance is dis-proportioned routine we follow. The fine line of difference lies in understanding your priorities and desires. Sometimes, we as Human confuse ourselves in our own unrealistic world which has no existence when applied. The fantasy of being in Howgarts and studying magic or rather being a multiple billion archaeologist like Tomb Raider; are we really being true to ourselves in understanding the surroundings we dwell in. What are we Humans running for when it comes to living?

Sense of achievement or desires is never ending quest. But, humans as rational being has we are, as always have found ways to succeed and be happy in life. Work made happy and gladly maintain the balance conceptualized about. Well, we have travel bloggers and communities like ‘stayonskill’ or ‘destinedtravellers’ and many more to name who are not billionaires by now but have more than million followers and are enrich by experience of various places around the globe. Entrepreneurs like Mr Vasu Mahajan, who is the founder of ‘Asia English Teacher’ which offers an Australian accredited and internationally recognized Certificate IV in TESOL. Fondly calls himself a BRAT (BACKPACKER, RIDER, and TEACHER) happily works around the Asia for 5 days and explores surroundings remaining days. Work-Life Balance never troubles them.

So, here is try to bring you people an acceptable definition of Work-Life Balance or making a life; it does not mean an equal balance. Life is and has to be more liquid (able to flow easily). The acceptance of the fact that your perfect individual work-life balance will vary from time to time, often on daily basis is important to do. Achievement and Enjoyment – simple it is. Walk easy and appreciate very small achievement.

Life will deliver the value and balance we desire. Divide your achievement and enjoyment in simple four parts: Work, Self, Family and Friends. All you need to do is focus on them as key components. So, make it happen for yourself and all important people of your life.

For rest of your life everyday achieve and enjoy!

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The Art of Patience!

They say, “Good Things Come to Those Who Wait”. For Rome wasn’t built in a day! But I always end up thinking I can wait but for how long? There is a time in life where holding on does become difficult.  So, what you do? Well, I stick to being tolerant!

I think allowing life to follow its own natural course is better than forcing into things that are not in our hands. This will result in another level of stress, pain and anxiousness of not being able to accomplish things you wish for. In urge of wanting the success badly we need up ruining it even before it is about being – Over thinking, Worrying, or Doubting.  I believe that there are things in life that require more time than others would. One has to rethink the way we tackle our laid backs and pain.

Patience and Persistence have a magical wand before which difficulties disappears. In patience lies the wisdom. One moment of patience may ward off greatest of adversities and one moment of impatience may ruin one’s life.  I say, even the word happiness will lose its meaning if it was not with balance of sadness. Leo Tolstoy quoted in War and Peace that the strongest of all warriors are time and patience.  We generally misinterpret patience with doing nothing and being stagnant .Well, that’s wrong and gives nothing but more misery in holding on.

The true art of patience is not doing anything but constantly doing everything in your hand. It is all about how we wish to act while the wait. Patience when combined with persistence and perspiration makes one a successful. Patience is a form of virtue and one has to practice it instead of acquiring it. Practicing patience will make you pay attention on every detail. Everything easy was once difficult before patiently worked on.

There is a reason for everything, Being Patient and allowing time to unfold to tell the story is usually where the lesson is. Patience is acceptance that things can happen in a different manner than the one you thought in your mind. The idea of being patient is that when asked if your cup is half or full, well be grateful you have a cup and will eventually be full one day. The reception of reality and calm strategy to get in a better place is art of patience.  There is no road too long for the people who advance without undue haste and hold on.

Be Patient, Good Things Take Time! Even miracles take a little time to happen. Best things happen to those who believe. Though it is difficult to be patient but why waste the rewards of lessons and understanding for patience in worse. Everything will come to you in right moment. And till it comes, work for the best thing to happen. What’s meant to be will always find its way!

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Being Alive!

Paulo Coelho, a renowned writer once quoted that to die alive is to take risks; it is to pay your price!

This thought made me realize that why people have to have a special occasion to celebrate and be happy? Why Life is not made a celebration?

Being alive is indeed a special occurrence in itself. I used to worry about what life was for but now I have realized that living life and breathing free air is itself a sufficient reason. People should hold on to hope for better days even if they find their confidence being wounded or trust of being happens to be impaired. Sometimes we make being alive or happy for that sake so difficult. We start our day like a job we hate, daily chores for us is a place of war, we hate time machines so much that plan to break one everyday because somehow along the we have forgotten to stay alive, happy and healthy or for that sake any good idea which can be just a moment passing by. Being alive means find your purpose and embrace every moment.

Many people give in to the tough times; accept the life has a hurdle to cross instead of understanding how precious is to be alive. Why forget one simple fact that if we have got so far in journey of life and make it worth; it’s time to appreciate all of it.  In bad times remember to promote the feeling that we have everything needed for the journey called life. Life in itself is content, self-explanatory and complete. Without presuming, just experience all the experience of being alive.

Take every breath as an event in life. Have passion to live, urge to do something unconventional or off stream or just lay by a tree in garden or woods, experience little miracles in God’s creation – whatever you think makes you happy, content, and especially something that makes you get up in the morning. Dreams, ambitions, journey of every human are uncommon always but the most important part is the very purpose. The greatest treasure is realization of living your life, and having all stories of you happily ever after.

Never be embarrassed by ability of being expressive. Cry when you want, and dance when you feel like. Rather failure shed tears or laughing loud is like failure to live fully. Leave Earth with the spirit of being victorious in journey you dwell.  Remember, being lively or happy is as simple as a glass of chocolate or tortuous as heart – bitter, sweet but worthy to live.

People underestimate the wonder or the magic of being alive and therefore live and pass by. Endow yourself with emotions, memories, faith and wisdom! Experience the journey you are dwelling because being alive is not a just a gift but a privilege! Stay Alive!  

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That Art of Being Aspired!

The Difference between Falling and Flying is Aspiration!

Aspiration means a hope or ambition of achieving something. One should find freedom in what they intending to be. In life people confuse themselves over one prime goal and then realizing that it’s not what they have been drilling for. If, we had one option among satisfaction, happiness, love, or wealth – what that will be?

You need a thinking beyond that routine or to-do list. Our aspirations are guided by our inspiration. One has to keep in mind that our focus takes us to places we wish or aspire to be, it determines our reality. Energy and power that you get from focus will excite you. At times in life we need an additional push to follow our dreams. What you want to do and can do is limitation of what you dream. Aspire higher to accomplish excellence in what you do. It is normal to aspire for growth. Approach each day as new opportunity to step ahead towards what you aspire.

There is an old Chinese proverb which is stated that – “The best time to plant a tree was 20 years ago. The second best time is now”. People give-up their dreams and ambition by thinking they are not courageous to accept it. Winning might not to be only thing for all but the want or desire is. Your life is outcome of your decision, the dreams or that little beyond to-do list you decided to walk on.

We need a sheer urge to recognize what has been holding us back. You see worrying or fears don’t lessen up next day rather disturbs your today as well. One should not wait around for all the good things to just occur, one has to aim and fly high on time to make it happen. No loss of enthusiasm when fail hundred times is true success.

Nelson Mandala once quoted – “It always seems impossible until it’s done”. You will never own whether you aspiration was worthy the try if you give up mid-way. Nothing is ever impossible. It’s not the difference of abilities between successful or unsuccessful one, rather it is the difference of their aspiration, their ability and hope to achieve their ambition. Don’t mark yourself down. You will never know what you could have achieved unless you aspire to be part of all your inspiration.

Don’t’ call dreams just dreams; they are your plan for the path of life. Aspire to be the best version of yourself. Grow a little each day. You achieve greatness in what or who you seek to aspire. Aspire to create change, change that improves, change that inspires!

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To that Miles You Wish to Go!

Woods are Lovely Dark & Deep, but I have Promises to Keep,
And Miles to Go Before I Sleep,
And Miles to Go Before I Sleep!

These lines of Robert Frost Poem have become everyday statement of my many friends. It depicts situation of a person wanting to stay in forest to enjoy and admire its beauty but hesitates and leaves because have family waiting for him at other corner. Hence, decides to go forth and move on.

My thought for the day is that whether actually the duties or responsibilities are so burdensome or we have made them so. I mean do you set a routine of activities just to saddle yourself or because you find it worthy of time. Why not to do something which makes you happy? Keeping outcome in mind is important; disappointment of any unwanted task will automatically get eradicated as you are looking at a big and greater picture. When was the last time you opened your favorite book or watched football and jumped on sofa because your favorite team had won! When was last you completed your routine activity or task and said “Wow! It was at my best performance till date.” Appreciate that too little in you as well.

Embrace whatever comes in life and show your haters – “I tackle it so well!” That charm of doing all our hardship or difficult painful tasks will all flow and work out well just because you have accepted the fact happily. Actually, there is one other way to look at it; why we humans confined ourselves in following a protocol, a pattern or ritual. For example, to be healthier you don’t need diet, just work on calorie intake right or let’s say – you don’t like gym; well in that case go to nearest garden and breath fresh air which a great form of healthy living too. If we look there are many ways of doing things around. All you do is find your way. Change the Pattern or alter the ritual.

Change is Identity. Be known by what you have adopted to Live Happy.

Real love story is love with you. So, I will say “Stop by Woods in Snowy Evening, Stay for Night; Get Up and See Sun Rise of New Mountain. March On! Life has A Lot of Adventures to Offer. Go Miles and Miles, before you Sleep!”

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The “Three Ps” of Effective Time Management

Planning. Priorities. Procrastination

To that limited, and scarce resource called TIME. You need time to get what you want out of life. One can accomplish more with less effort once sorted with time. We have to understand that we need to learn the technique which will direct your work or personal life instead of merely managing the time. A greater self-awareness of how currently you use your time is vital.

To make the best use of time follow these simpler rules – Decide that not everything can be accommodated in same time, Let Go – resist that temptation to do small, insignificant tasks too well, and outsource what you can. Time has two division of which one is clock and another is compass. The clock means your commitments, appointments, goals and schedules while the compass which signifies vision, values , principles and directions. The former states what we do and how we manage our time while the later is what we feel and how we lead our lives.

Now, towards the most dreadful time defect – PROCRASTINATION!

To understand the way of time effectiveness and our journey to Plan well our Priorities – Let’s comprehend, why do we procrastinate?

The foremost factor is confusion to flag off the task which means we don’t know where to start our task from, and second is avoiding our unlikable or difficult task. Next comes our fear for failure along with more wait for the extra information for the task which can be initiated without it. The extremely ignored one is our over-commitments – somewhere we tend to have so many things slotted in one day list. Clubbing all the tasks without priority set will become stressing and you will end up wasting a lot of valuable time and energy.

Here are the ways to beat Procrastination – Recognize when you are Procrastinating – we need to know when we start wandering off that’s the time when we have to hold ourselves back. The next is breaking inertia (lethargy). Divide big assignments into smaller manageable tenure bind tasks, and set that reachable goal. Always have a habit to reward yourself with non-procrastinating behavior and enjoy your freedom.

Sharpen the Saw! Renew yourself Regularly!
Put FIRST things FIRST. Prioritize, do the most important things FIRST!
Begin with an End in your Mind!

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Something Idealistic

To all things that are bright and beautiful … To all creatures that become great or small … What if these things and creatures were emotions and battle of thoughts?

The phrases that we learnt throughout our lives in form of nursery rhymes or life lessons from Internet has always tried to teach us a small fact lesser known. It taught us to stay in quality; it taught us that Creator’s intention ever inevitably bright and beautiful.

We, humans today have left no stone upturned to disturb and destroy Creator’s World. I don’t wish to repeat the same “Human = Evil” story but want each one of us to realize that life is borne bright and beautiful… Like the rhyme! We just have to walk it; Fewer Complexes & Lesser Chaotic with ourselves.

Nothing is impossible but not everything is to be completed in a today’s timeline. Learn to give space and time to what comes your way in empathetic manner. All of raw, inimical, and negative vibe will automatically be filtered out.

 Be the “I don’t know” tribe occasionally! From ignoring the unknown – it’s better to accept flaws and then let it Go! If you look at other way around – I feel you are successful only when earn jealousy, appreciation and recognition is persistence of everyone who can.

TO WALK WITH JEALOUSY IS ROAD LESS TAKEN!

There are two thought processes that rule an individual’s world – which I will discuss in my next blog!

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